Are you the heroine of your story?
We each have a narrative to tell about our life. It’s interesting what we decide to include—and exclude—in the telling. What’s the story you tell? Do you start from the beginning or do you skip entire chapters? Do you edit out the parts where you flubbed your lines or do you unabashedly recount the missteps […]
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Here are some of the questions I’d ask you
I coach women to live their best lives, and I blog about all kinds of topics… —from goal setting to procrastination, —from the danger of deferring dreams to improving your Say/Do ratio, —from suffering from Someday Syndrome to learning how to sustain momentum, —from choosing your mindset with intention to why pursuing your passion doesn’t […]
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Are you complaining about something that happened a year ago?
A friend I hadn’t seen in awhile recounted a story about something that happened to him at work. The Dilbert-like story showcased a toxic relationship with a colleague and highlighted a dysfunctional work environment. My friend, let’s call him “Bob”, told the story with such gusto that I wondered if I was witnessing someone hyperventilate. This […]
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The trap of “all or nothing”: If it can’t be perfect, why bother?
Black or white. Good or bad. You’re perfect or you’re a loser. Is All or Nothing thinking your particular brand of self-sabotage? Is your mantra, If it can’t be done to perfection or the nth degree, then why bother? If you’re a perfectionist, the absolute of All or Nothing thinking is the air you breathe. Here’s […]
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Making time for what matters most
You’re living a busy life. Caring for children, caretaking elderly parents. Working and making ends meet. Running errands, marking off chores, doing what needs to be done. And if you’re like most women, time feels in short supply. I wish I had more time. There aren’t enough hours in the day. I’ll get around to it […]
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On the one hand, I’m all for less is more
Many women are trying to subtract things from their lives. …eat less …spend less …get rid of clutter …be less stressed Less is more There’s a movement underway to get back to the basics. To move away from possession-cluttered, debt-overloaded, work-burdened, and time-starved lives. To make lifestyle choices that minimize the “more is better” mindset—and […]
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Are you stuck in a setback?
I recently saw an advertisement for a car that said, “Takes bumps easily.” Oh, to be that car! So often we don’t take bumps easily. We can’t see past the bump. We get stuck in the bump. We relive the bump. We let the bump define us. After the setback I’ve noticed two distinct reactions […]
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Do you need to finally decide whether to make a career change?
At some point, you have to stop thinking and step through the door. I see it all the time: Someone is thinking and thinking and thinking about doing something, but never actually walks through the proverbial door to do it. Recently, a new client came to me who has been thinking about making a career […]
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Tired of the quick fix? Need more than a band-aid?
Are you about the quick fix? Do you tend to put band-aids on what’s not working in your life? Instead of getting to the root of a problem and addressing the cause, do you turn to a temporary “remedy” or quick fix? A band-aid that inevitably fails to be a long-term solution. It happens to […]
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But don’t you want to look at my resume?
What’s the single most important factor in making a successful career transition? It’s not polishing your resume or letting everyone know you’re looking to make a career change. It’s not upgrading your skills, reading a book about interviewing, or even networking. No, a successful career transition starts in advance of those activities. It begins by […]
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How would you describe your life’s journey?
Chances are there are a number of destinations you’ve planned along your life’s journey. Perhaps to get that promotion or have kids To get healthy or buy a house To spend more time with your family or write a book To go back to school or save for your kids’ education Then there are the […]
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Do you live in the land of lack?
Dearth. Deficit. Deprivation. Deficiency. There’s never enough. Enough time. Enough money. Enough connections. Enough knowledge. I’ve encountered this scarcity mentality a lot lately. In fact, oxymoron that it is: Some people seem to thrive on lacking something. They seem to have a surplus of deficiency. What’s your filter? It’s one thing to be aware of a gap […]
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Are you going where the energy is?
It’s amazing how many people fight their energy instead of going where the energy is. Some fall into situations that are energy depleting and then are willing to stay trapped. Others encounter great surges of energy, but fight the source if it doesn’t fit with the expected path they thought their life would take. Going […]
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Sometimes you just have to take the first step
I was reminded recently of something I seem to relearn on occasion: Sometimes you have to jump in and get started, even when you don’t know exactly how to do something. You just have to take the first step. As my friend Denise has said, You have to have faith the path will appear. For […]
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Here are your 7 keys to sustaining momentum
One of my all-time favorite quotes is related to momentum. Frances Willard said: The world is wide, and I will not waste my life in friction when it could be turned into momentum. Intuitively we know momentum is needed to achieve a Big Goal. It helps us steer clear of distractions and bounce back from […]
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