It all begins with state of mind
I never hear Jay-Z’s Empire State of Mind without singing along. And when I say “singing”, I mean belting out the tune like I’m on the field of Yankee Stadium with Jay-Z and Alicia Keys before Game 2 of the 2009 World Series. I’m not just singing—I’m performing. It may only be my imagination, but […]
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Do you want to keep having what you’re having?
I hear a lot of nos. No, that’s too hard. No, that would be overwhelming. No, I don’t have the energy for that. No, that would take too long. No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. “No” is hard to come back from. It puts the kibosh on what’s possible. Nothing changes if nothing changes. […]
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Are you ready to play in a bigger arena?
I received a reminder from nature about the new possibilities that open up when we play in a bigger arena. Here’s what happened: I had a small plant that was thriving nicely in a small planter. I’d had the plant for years and it was remarkably consistent in size. Exploded in growth I recently decided […]
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Is it the right goal and is it YOUR goal?
Are you tired of setting goals you don’t achieve? Are you worn out by missing the target for what you want most in life? Goals are great when you set yourself up for success in achieving them. Otherwise, unmet goals leave you feeling discouraged and doubting your abilities to succeed. Here’s a litmus test for […]
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I’ll be happy when I get married, have kids, lose 20 pounds
Are you waiting, waiting, waiting for your life to begin? Waiting to be happy when some magical set of circumstances occur and the planets align? I’ll be happy when I buy a house, renovate the kitchen, get new furniture for the living room. I’ll be happy when I get my business off the ground, have […]
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80% of people think they have a book in them
A study by a publishing services firm found 80% of Americans think they have a book in them. Of course, far fewer than 80% actually write a book. Many, many think about writing a book, talk about writing a book…but don’t actually do much—if any—writing. So there’s a disconnect between the Big Goal of writing […]
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Here’s my question: How can you make it easier?
“There seems to be some perverse human characteristic that likes to make easy things difficult.” —Warren Buffet There does seem to be a tendency in people (me included!) to make things much more difficult than they have to be. Do you find yourself saying any of these or something similar? I’m overwhelmed. There’s so much […]
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Are you being heroic?
A number of my clients have recently struggled with asking for help. The unnecessary hero One is changing careers and has trouble leveraging her current network to facilitate the transition. The issue is not whether she has a strong network or whether they would be willing to offer assistance. No, the issue is her near-refusal […]
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Have you ever set a DUMB goal?
You’ve probably heard of SMART goals—those that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. Some say goals crafted within the parameters of SMART make us play it too safe and keep us coloring inside the lines. Welcome to DUMB goals That’s where DUMB goals come into play. There are different interpretations for what constitutes a […]
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A big question for just three little words: Who are you?
Who are you? It’s a big question for just three little words. What’s your inclination for answering? Is it to state your vital statistics—name, age, marital status, occupation, education level, whether you have kids, etc? Or is it to answer with a question in return: What do you mean, who am I? I’ve found most […]
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Should you pursue your passion or be practical?
How do you choose between pursuing your passion and doing what is practical? Many of my clients initially come to coaching believing they’re at the crossroads of passion and practicality—and that they have to choose one versus the other. Here’s a snippet of what I’ve been hearing: The economy makes it impractical to even think […]
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Are you missing an opportunity to be restored?
A friend called in a state of overwhelm. She’d finally decided to tackle the clutter that filled her home, but was struggling to find a strategy that felt doable. Organized clutter is still clutter. Her first inclination was to organize. Most of us have been down that road where we organize our clutter instead of […]
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Are you the leader of your life?
The other day someone said to me, You’ve got it all figured out. While I appreciated the generosity of the thought, I was uncomfortable at the same time. My anti-guru warning light went on. I most certainly don’t have it all figured out. I don’t have all the answers. No one does. In fact, a […]
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Where are you in the five stages of change?
Many of my clients come to coaching to make a change. Switch careers, stop overspending, improve their health, start a business, live more outside their comfort zone, write a book, stop living for someday, simplify and downsize, stop overworking, find more joy… the list of possible change is endless. One of the first things I […]
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What are you discarding this time of year?
Today is an Indian summer kind of day. While walking downtown, I think about why autumn is my favorite time of year over the other seasons. I think it’s the falling away that always seems to happen to me this time of year. Just like the trees shedding their leaves, these are the months I’m […]
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