These 6 habits guarantee life is a struggle

These 6 habits guarantee life is a struggle

Are you crazy busy? Do you tend to complicate things? Find yourself getting stuck in confusion?

Are any of those how you get in your own way?

Or maybe you’re easily distracted. And struggle with what’s a priority—and what’s not. Even find yourself putting productivity ahead of people.

If any of these sound familiar, read on.

Because it’s time to get out of your own way and choose ease over struggle. And it’s as simple as changing what you think, do and say.

It’s time to stop these 6 acts of self-sabotage.

Stop burning the candle at both ends and wearing busy like a badge of honor. There’s nothing strategic about burnout. And martyrdom isn’t attractive. Sometimes working smarter means tossing half your To Do list and saying “No” as a complete sentence.

Stop overcomplicating everything. Vow to simplify. Streamline. Pare down. Reduce. Revise. Renegotiate. Get creative and ruthless about de-complexifying your life.

Stop indulging in confusion and “I don’t know” when it comes to getting from point A to Z. Simply start—and trust the next step will become clear, and then the next, and the next…

Stop being distracted by shiny new objects and ideas. There’ll always be the latest tool or newest trend. But distraction comes at the expense of focusing and finishing. The task at hand may not be as sexy as the latest bright shiny object, but finishing it is way better for you.

Stop trying to do it all. Like implement a dozen strategies at once or deal with 82 priorities. Pick one or two strategies to focus on and go deep. Really leverage them. Get clear about what’s truly essential and focus only on that.

Stop being so productive you forget to live. There’ll always be more to add to your To Do list. Remember: Your worth and productivity do not equate. And your loved ones don’t love you for how much you get done.

When you stop these 6 acts of self-sabotage, you’ll feel more at ease in your life as a whole. Less struggle has a nice ring to it, doesn’t it?

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