Recently a number of my coaching clients have described rushing.
Rushing to get things done. Hurrying to finish this so they can get onto that. Rushing at work. Rushing at home. Rushing from work to home.
- Sometimes the rushing and hurrying is because whatever task they are doing is not particularly one that they want to do. So they want to finish it as soon as possible.
- Sometimes the rushing and hurrying is because they have many things to do and feel compelled to move fast through each one to get the most done.
- Sometimes the rushing and hurrying is simply a vibrational pattern or habit they’ve developed. They are accustomed to moving through life as if the goal is to move fast through life.
- Sometimes the rushing and hurrying is because there is something they would rather be doing, but since they feel they have to do such and such, they want to get through the stuff they don’t want to do so they can get to the stuff they do want to do.
Now, when they talk about all this rushing, my clients are not describing a high vibe emotion.
- They are not feeling empowered by the rushing.
- They are not feeling freedom in the rushing.
- They are not appreciating the rushing.
- They are not finding joy in whatever it is they are rushing through.
Quite the contrary.
The experience of rushing is usually described as a feeling of overwhelm or stress or exhaustion. It’s not about flow, it’s about efforting. It’s not about joy, it’s about hustling and hanging in there. The experience of rushing is described as being very upstream.
Here’s the thing: All this rushing has a vibrational consequence. Which means all this rushing has a manifesting consequence.
When you are rushing through the present moment—and keep in mind it is only in this present moment that you are creating—when you are rushing through it, you are simply attracting more and more into your life on the same frequency of rush, of hurry, of get through this to get to that.
And so, yes, you can get things done when you rush, when you hurry. You can mark a bunch of things off a To Do list. You can get through the stuff you don’t want to do in order to get to the stuff you do want to do.
Which means it might seem like you’re getting a payoff from rushing. As in, you are getting things done. But the consequence to doing life this way—of offering a low vibration as you rush through your day—is that you attract more that matches up to the essence of that experience.
You attract more overwhelm. You attract more stress. You attract more exhaustion.
None of us is intentionally trying to attract overwhelm, stress, and exhaustion. But you cannot consistently offer these in your vibration and not expect that your unfolding life experience will match up.
Law of Attraction will match you up to the vibration you feel when you hurry through your day, when you rush through your life.
Quite simply: Rushing begets more rushing.
“There is a tendency to feel yourself rushing, in other words, ‘We have very little time for this.’ And that, above all things, takes the joy out of your journey, doesn’t it? When you have to do something with your attention upon the pressure of time rather than enjoying the delicious creativity of the project—we say, it is of little vale to create anything under those conditions.” —Abraham
Well, isn’t that an interesting take on rushing!
How often is your attention on the pressure of time rather than enjoying whatever it is you are currently doing? And how often does this totally take the joy out of the journey?
I would imagine about 100% of the time.
Too many of us are way too willing to sacrifice how we feel on the journey in order to get somewhere, to get something done, to achieve a goal, to mark off a task.
I certainly used to be way to willing to sacrifice the joy of the journey to get to some destination.
Those destinations were anything and everything. From pick up the drycleaning to start a business.
- Destinations can be so-called “big”. As in you might think planning your wedding or buying the new house or getting the degree as big destinations.
- Other destinations can be so-called “little”—pick up the drycleaning, fill out your expense reports for work, call the insurance company to check on a claim.
You may not think of filling out your expense reports as having anything to do with what Abraham describes as “enjoying the delicious creativity of the project”, but creativity doesn’t just mean painting and singing, sewing and dancing.
Make no mistake: You are creating when you are running your errands and cleaning your house and grocery shopping. You are creating when you are doing payroll for your business and taking calls from customers and training a new employee.
You are creating all the time.
There is the “getting it done” aspect of running the errands—that would be the destination of the errands are done. And there is also the journey of doing those errands. Of driving from here to there, of interacting with this person and that person, of waiting in this line and buying that thing.
And in that journey, in each and every moment of that journey, you are having a present moment.
All those present moments unfold one after the other—and therein lies your opportunity to enjoy the delicious creativity of the project. As in, enjoy whatever you are doing, including when you are doing your so-called mundane errands.
When you are rushing, when you just want to get things done, when you are in a hurry, you are still creating in all those present moments that you’re not truly present for. Your energy of rushing, which is not energy of joy, is attracting.
“One of the first things that causes energy misalignment is making or demanding too much of yourself in terms of time and effort. So, the rule of thumb has to be: ‘I’m going to be very, very, very happy, and then do everything I have time to do after that.’”—Abraham
Really let that land: Demanding too much of yourself in terms of time and effort causes energy misalignment. Rushing through your day is usually a signal of this energy misalignment.
I used to be a get everything done and then be happy kind of person. Of course, it was never possible to truly get everything done because there is always more to do. These days, through the lens of Law of Attraction, I live by Abraham’s advice: Be very, very, very happy, and then do everything I have time to do after that.
That is your invitation: Be very, very, very happy, and then do everything you have time to do after that.
“The joy is always in the journey and when you get that, then it just does not matter very much at all where you are currently standing.” —Abraham
- This means you can enjoy your commute to work.
- This means you can enjoy taking your car to get the oil changed.
- This means you can enjoy waiting in line at the post office.
- This means you can enjoy cooking dinner.
Or you can rush and focus on the pressure of time. And being in a state of energy misalignment.
One of my favorite affirmations from Louise Hay is:
“I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.” —Louise Hay
With that thought you can feel good in the present moment. And if you feel good in the present moment, you are attracting more that matches up. You are attracting circumstances and conditions, people and events, situations and things of a similar feel-good frequency.
“Every time you feel like rushing, sit down and go slower.” —Abraham
Oh my! Would you be willing to do that? Would it feel good to do that?
Remember, this is not so much about the speed you are going—fast or slow—as how you feel. If you take the advice to sit down and go slower and then feel worry you won’t be able to get everything done that needs doing, then worry is the vibration you are offering.
So this is about the action of slowing down and the thoughts you think about the action you are taking.
“You think that the goal is to be over there, and we say the goal is the journey over there; the goal is the fun you have along the way on your way to over there.” —Abraham
If you have been going through your days with the goal to get somewhere you are not, to get things done, to mark tasks off a list…if you have been hurrying through life as if the goal is to be other there—whatever form “over there” takes, then you’re missing the point.
And let me just say, before my obsession with all things Law of Attraction I know I was certainly missing the point.
I was not living my life embracing the goal is the fun I have along the way on my way to over there. Instead, I was all about rushing to “over there”. I was marking tasks off a list, hustling, efforting, working hard, over scheduling, overdoing, doing when I didn’t feel like doing, rushing, hurrying…
As if some day it would all get done and then I could relax and have fun. Which brings to mind the classic LoA quote: “You cannot have a happy ending to an unhappy journey.” —Abraham
You want the happy ending. We all do. And so now is the time to begin a happy journey, a feel good journey, a be-in-the-present-moment-and-choose-to-enjoy-it journey.
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