Why I’m dragging my feet about making a will
I really hate tolerations. Those nagging energy drains that lurk in the background of life, sapping the spirit. So I’ve gotten really good at nipping them in the bud. I have specific strategies in place to keep tolerations from coming into my life, and when one does get through, I’m usually quick to address it. […]
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No matter how hard you try, you can’t outwit this formula
Thoughts lead to behavior. Behavior creates results. This is one of those formulas you can’t outwit or work around. It’s simple and true and just is. When you’re not getting the results you want in your life, all you have to do is look at your thoughts. Because your thoughts are leading to your behavior. […]
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Read this when you start jumping to conclusions
While it’s a little early for Halloween, I’d like to talk about mind readers and fortune tellers. No, not those kind. I’m talking about thinking distortions that come from jumping to conclusions. Here’s what happens: Rather than rely on evidence to come to a logical conclusion, mind readers and fortune tellers focus on a negative […]
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5 ways to boost your confidence
Are you self-assured about your own abilities? Do you fully appreciate your own qualities? I recently conducted a reader survey that found many women are experiencing a crisis of confidence. It shows up in the form of self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and negative self-talk. Does that sound familiar? Do you want to play a bigger game, […]
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6 reasons authenticity is the way forward
Life presents us with so many occasions to be stuck and confused. Even feel a little lost sometimes. You’re unhappy in your career, but not sure what to do next. You’re worried about your relationship, but fear looking too closely. You want more meaning in your life, but aren’t sure how to get it. You’re […]
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Read this when no one says “Thank you”
Words mean a lot. We’ve all felt the surge of pride and accomplishment when our efforts are acknowledged. When someone lets us know we make a difference. Sometimes we get external validation or recognition. Someone says, Good job in appreciation of our efforts. When that happens, it’s not hard to feel you make a difference, right? […]
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Where are you settling—and why?
Are you settling? I know, I know. It’s such a loaded question. Because if the answer is “yes”, what do you do with that? What do you do with the knowledge you’re accepting or agreeing to something you consider less than satisfactory? Because THAT is the definition of settling. Accepting something that’s less than satisfactory. […]
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What happens when you don’t have the experience for what you want?
The other day I was thinking about what lead me down the path of entrepreneurship. After maxing out my growth in a couple different roles for a company in Chicago, I applied for a stretch position in strategic account management. It would be a new arena for me. One that would use my current skillset, […]
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Who else wants to break free of this fallacy?
In philosophy there’s this thing called the is-ought fallacy. It boils down to this: Because something is or has been it ought to be. If you’re like me, you have to let that sink in for a minute. The is-ought fallacy is at work when we assume that because things are a certain way, they […]
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“You’re trying to get people to overhaul their lives”
I was having a “let’s get to know each other” coffee with someone I’d only said hello to at a couple of networking events. We were ten minutes into our conversation when she said something that stopped me in my tracks: It sounds to me like you’re trying to get people to overhaul their lives. […]
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What if you’re creating the wrong results?
It used to be a struggle to create the results I wanted in my life. I’ve always been a big fan of setting goals, so that wasn’t the problem. No, something else was going on. I would set a goal and take action, but then struggle to gain traction and sustain momentum. It turns out […]
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Are you thinking of the wasted years?
The other day someone shared, I hate being a CPA, but that’s what my degree is in and I’ve worked in the field for 8 years already, so I really can’t make a change. Oh, the disheartening weight of that mindset. This type of thinking is a cognitive misstep that behavioral economists call “sunk-cost fallacy”. […]
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Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next.
Sometimes you encounter a mindset so powerful it seems like adopting it would give you superpowers. That’s how I feel about this one: Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next. This is the Swiss army knife of mindsets. Multi-purpose, and handy to have in any situation. It can be applied anytime, anywhere. I’ve pulled this […]
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Are your words working for or against you?
Someone says, I have a problem when they could just as easily have said, I have an opportunity. Problem versus opportunity. Which is the more empowering use of language? I used to find myself habitually saying I’ll try before some task or activity: I’ll try to get to the gym today. I’ll try to find time to […]
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What 7 questions will you ask?
Anyone who knows me knows I love questions. The more the better. I’m a big believer in asking questions. A quality question can open the door to discovery and invite breakthrough thinking. It generates insight, which can lead to action and ignite change. Perhaps you have a friend or colleague who’s adept at asking quality […]
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