It all falls apart when you won’t decide
It seems everyone is trying to simplify some aspect of their lives. Their calendar, commitments, finances… Their commute, To Do list, expectations… Their morning routine, relationships, living space… The desire to simplify is strong. On the other side of simplified is more time and freedom. Less stress and anxiety. More of what matters and less […]
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What if you don’t have to have all the answers?
Recently one of my clients shared she feels the need to have all the answers in work situations, especially with clients. This pressure to always have the right answer at the ready is causing a lot of stress—not to mention the massive preparation it requires for any client interaction. And even with all that prep time, she […]
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Top 10 thoughts it would be better not to think
My undergrad experience is inextricably linked to watching David Letterman. One of my favorite bits was always the Top 10 lists. They had me laughing before the list even began with topics like Top Ten Least Popular Pepperidge Farm Cookies and Top Ten Things Overheard At New York City Pay Phones. I thought I’d […]
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Do you treat a setback like a stop sign?
How many times does something not happen when you want it, the way you want it and you act like it’s the end of the story? You didn’t get the promotion. It doesn’t look like the trip to Europe is going to happen. Another month passed and the house hasn’t sold. Your new business idea […]
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Which of the hundreds of cereals do you want?
The other day a friend and I were talking about how many choices are available to us. But not in a good way. Shelf after shelf of toothpaste. Over a hundred types of hand soap. An entire aisle of cereal. Choice overload. Decision fatigue. That’s the world we live in—and bump up against every day. […]
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Things I would put in the crusher
If I could, I would put limiting beliefs in the crusher I would put mine in And I would put in yours too Things like I’m just no good at… A person like me could never… I should be… I’m not creative enough… I mustn’t because I might fail… I would put them in, one […]
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The story of the worst boss I ever had
She was a taskmaster. Never celebrated a single achievement. Always raised the bar higher with each success. Nothing was ever good enough. She set entirely unsustainable work hours. Frowned on vacations and believed weekends were time to get extra work done. The client was always right—even if it meant staying until the wee hours to […]
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It’s not the job market that will get in your way. It’s you.
I was talking to a great guy recently about his job search. He has an impressive resume of top jobs with organizations familiar to all of us. He’s smart, articulate, a master problem solver, and someone who doesn’t just say the words “team” and “collaboration”, but truly lives these concepts. His skillset is impressive, and […]
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Get unstuck with these 3 easy questions
I love having tools at the ready in my toolkit. Sometimes the simplest tools are the best. They let you get in, get what you need, and get on with life. So here’s a tool I rely on to sift through mental clutter, gain insight into the crux of the matter, and then move forward. […]
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Not now doesn’t mean not ever
I’m a collector of mindsets. I notice them in myself. I listen for them in other people. I love reading about them. I write about them. I try them on to see what the world looks like through their lens. And I’m always on the lookout for mindsets I haven’t encountered before. Several years ago […]
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Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? It’s time to HALT.
I don’t remember the first time I heard the acronym HALT, but I do remember it stopped me in my tracks. I thought, Oh, that’s what’s going on when I make decisions that don’t serve me or my best life. When I take actions I later regret. Because when I’m hungry, angry, lonely or tired, […]
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The myth of perfect conditions
I was talking with an attendee at one of my writing workshops. She was there to write the novel she’d been thinking about for years. But when it came to actually writing—not just talking about writing—she wanted to wait until she could afford to purchase a laptop to start her novel. This purchase was months […]
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Limiting beliefs are sure to keep you stuck
I watch otherwise smart and capable people stay stuck day after day because of limiting beliefs. The person who says, I’m just not creative foregoes opportunities to create. The person who says, I’ve never been able to stick with things stops setting goals altogether. The person who says, I’m not good at networking and wouldn’t really know how […]
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I don’t want to be in debt
There are some questions that almost guarantee an interesting conversation. What’s your ideal life? is one of them. Which is why I love asking this question. I’ve noticed, though, in describing their ideal life, most respond with a laundry list of what they don’t want. I don’t want to be in debt. I don’t want to […]
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How to get unstuck with one simple question
I have a question for getting unstuck that works every single time. Without exception. I’ve used it to start and sell a company. I’ve used it to figure out my own style of networking and grow my community. I’ve used it to navigate my father’s illness and establish a new norm in the world without […]
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