I have to have all the answers
When’s the last time you said, “I don’t know”? Has it been awhile? Do your think admitting you don’t know signals weakness? Do you fear saying I don’t know makes you look less competent or even stupid? Going through life with the mindset you should have all the answers is asking for trouble. You’re one question […]
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Enough with the self-imposed obstacles
I was working with a client who has wanted to write a novel for the past decade. She’s had numerous starts and stops along the way—many times when she managed to sit down and produce a page or two, but then lost steam. The novel had resurfaced again in our coaching, and we explored whether […]
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4 reasons you’re not achieving your goal
A client recently wondered, Why do I keep having the same unrealized goals year after year? We’ve all experienced that disempowering feeling of setting the same goal—yet again. The one that’s left us stymied and frustrated in the past. The one we say we want to achieve, but fail to gain any sustainable traction around. […]
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Why are you trying to be a master juggler?
Client: Last week was really crazy. I just need to get better at juggling. Me: What’s the appeal of keeping all those balls in the air? It sounds exhausting. Client: No, it’s just a figure of speech. You know what I mean. I need to be better at handling stuff, multitasking, managing my time. Hmmm….that […]
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Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals
1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]
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Mini Mission—Own your power
Are you giving away your power? Giving away your personal power diminishes you and erodes your ability to create change in your life. You might be giving away your power by: blaming others looking backward instead of forward not listening to your intuition trying to be someone you’re not people pleasing letting others decide what’s […]
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What would it take to get unstuck?
Are you stuck? Stuck in an old habit, a dead-end relationship, an unfulfilling job? Stuck in a limiting belief, an out of shape body, a fear that’s holding you back… What would it take to get unstuck? What one thing can you do today—perhaps even right now—as a first step? That one thing could be […]
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Do you see yourself in these low-energy choices?
There is energy associated with every choice you make. A low-energy choice leaves you feeling drained, conflicted, stuck, disconnected, fearful, frustrated, hopeless, and ready to crawl back into bed. You contract into a low-energy choice, and it leaves you feeling “less than”. Do you see yourself in any of these low-energy choices? Negativity This low-energy […]
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How are your boundaries? Established and strong? Or vague (even to you, but especially to others) and weak? Many of my coaching clients are working on setting stronger boundaries as a critical component of self-care. They’re tired of saying “yes” when they really want to say “no.” They’re frustrated by taking on commitments and then […]
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If I don’t try, I won’t fail
If I don’t try, I won’t fail. Absolutely. I have no argument with the truth of this mindset. But typing those words sends a shudder down my spine. Our mindset becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So if your mindset is don’t try, won’t fail, then the world must shrink to make that your reality. Small and […]
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Do you have a scarcity mindset about time?
There’s never enough time. I’m so busy, but always behind. There just aren’t enough hours in the day. I have too many things to do and not enough time. With this scarcity mindset, you cut yourself off from this possibility and clarifying principle: There is enough time for what really matters. Quite simply, your mindset […]
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Everything has to be perfect
Everything has to be perfect. I can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. I have to be perfect. While there are many variations to only perfection will do, the perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you know you’re going to come up […]
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Bend with life, but don’t break
Bend, don’t break. So easy to say. So hard to do when all that feels possible is breaking. Breaking down, not through. Breaking up, not out. Breaking apart. Bend, don’t break. Even though bending, bending, bending seems to take so much energy. While breaking seems easier somehow. Break and you’re done. But the living […]
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Keep moving forward
You may not know how or where to begin—only that it’s time to start. You may not know exactly what to pack for your trip, what you’ll need for the journey. You may not know the turn-by-turn route to your destination. You may not get from Point A to Point B in the quickest, most […]
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Sometimes when it’s not working you have to take it apart
Sometimes when it’s not working you have to take it apart. Sometimes you take it apart to look at all the pieces individually and see which ones are causing the problem. Which ones don’t fit anymore. Which ones need to be changed. Sometimes you take it apart just to look at what makes it up. […]
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