Gunk of Low-Energy Living: boundary

How are your boundaries?

Established and strong? Or vague (even to you, but especially to others) and weak?

Many of my coaching clients are working on setting stronger boundaries as a critical component of self-care.

  • They’re tired of saying “yes” when they really want to say “no.”
  • They’re frustrated by taking on commitments and then feeling resentful.
  • They’re upset at not speaking up just to avoid conflict.

Boundaries act as a filter to let in things that enhance you and keep out things that would limit you.

Setting strong boundaries is a healthy life skill, and many of us could use some boundary strengthening.

Here’s your mini mission

Think about an area of your life where you find yourself over-committed, people pleasing, or feeling resentful. These are red flags that signal boundary work is needed.

Perhaps it’s a boundary about what people may not do around you, like tell off-color jokes or gossip. Or maybe it’s a boundary about something you have a right to ask for, like more time to make a decision or time alone.

Whatever it is, think of a boundary that you need to address to boost your self-respect, energy, and personal power. Your mission is to establish or renegotiate that boundary.