Sometimes when it’s not working you have to take it apart
Sometimes when it’s not working you have to take it apart. Sometimes you take it apart to look at all the pieces individually and see which ones are causing the problem. Which ones don’t fit anymore. Which ones need to be changed. Sometimes you take it apart just to look at what makes it up. […]
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Mini Mission—Journaling for clarity
Are you unclear about what you really—really—want for the next chapter of your life? Is it difficult to quiet all the voices and outside sources telling you what you should do and should want? Here’s your mini mission Commit to journaling for a few minutes a day for one week. There are no rigid rules […]
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The “findings” from my unscientific study surprise me
Here’s the question on my mind lately: Is busy a choice? So I conducted an informal experiment this week. I paid special attention to what people said when I asked, How are you? Ten of 12 responded with some variation of busy. Oh my gosh, this summer is so busy I can’t catch my breath. I […]
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Thinking the worst and throwing a tantrum
Last week I received news: Something I wanted very badly might not happen. I would like to say I calmly sat down, said the Serenity Prayer, and did the work of teasing out what was in the change category versus the acceptance column. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; […]
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Are you dimming your light in these 33 ways?
I just reread Debbie Ford’s The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life. Quite simply, I love this book. I first read it back in 2003 and have probably reread it every year since. In addition, I sometimes just pull it from my bookshelf, let the pages fall open, and […]
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Why are you neglecting that part of you?
Is there some aspirational part of yourself you’ve been neglecting? You know what I mean—the part of you that waits for “Someday.” Someday… Someday I’ll get healthy, start a business, find time to express my creativity. Someday I’ll change careers, love myself, take a trip across country. Someday I’ll revive my relationship, write a book, […]
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There’s no doubt: The right questions changed my life
My life is a work in progress. Like yours. Like everyone’s. And like me, you’ve probably had pivotal moments. Moments where something or someone crossed your path and forever changed the journey you would be on. Last month Debbie Ford, one of my teachers and sources of inspiration, passed away. Debbie was one of my […]
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Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?
The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]
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How to get into action with 5 easy questions
“Action expresses priorities.” —Gandhi Are you expressing your priorities right now through your actions? You can get into action more easily by asking yourself a few simple questions. But be warned: These questions are a catalyst. Answer them only if you’re prepared to be in action. 1. What are you committed to and why? There’s nothing quite so […]
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Are you sabotaging yourself with limiting beliefs?
Lately it seems there’s an epidemic of limiting beliefs. Has everyone caught a debilitating case of self-sabotage? I can’t… I’m not… It won’t… Limiting beliefs aren’t the only thing preventing you from achieving your goals and creating the life you want, but they certainly play a role. Here’s what I believe: Limiting beliefs hold you […]
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How will you add in some unexpected good today?
I love birthdays. I also love anything I can do proactively to reduce potential stress. Like when I look at the calendar, see someone’s special day is right around the corner, and realize I don’t have a card to send. So I recently ordered several birthday cards from Papyrus to have on hand. Last minute […]
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Three simple questions about more, less & different
Autumn is underway and it’s the perfect time to reflect and cast off what you don’t want to take into the new year. Yes, I’m already talking about the new year. Because the new year is just 77 days around the corner. I find once the holidays are underway—which are also just around the corner—many of […]
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Crisis versus awakening—is there a difference?
Recently I’ve been thinking about the distinction between a midlife crisis and midlife awakening. The nature of my work means this isn’t a new topic. In fact, it’s not unusual for a client to question whether she’s having a midlife crisis. So what’s the difference between crisis and awakening? It seems to me a midlife […]
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The day I decided to move to Sweden
A few months ago I decided to move to Sweden. It was during the summer heatwave and the thought of a cooler climate sounded so appealing. As did being someplace more urban. I liked the idea of downsizing too. After all, Sweden is the birthplace of IKEA—the master at utilizing every inch of space with […]
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Longing for the simple life
A friend recently said, Sometimes I dream of having a simple life. When I asked what a simpler life would look like, painting the picture didn’t come easy for her. She was largely at a loss for words to define “a simple life”. Which left me wondering: What does it mean to long for something […]
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