Are you treating your life like a dress rehearsal?
It takes a lot of courage to look your life square in the eye and face the truth. Particularly if you’ve been in denial about the state of your relationships, career, health, finances, self-care, physical environment, spiritual life, emotional well-being, etc. Or if you’ve deferred truly living by falling into the insidious trap of “life […]
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What if you stopped thinking in terms of negatives?
What if you reconnected with possibility. Rather than focusing on what you can’t do, what if you focused on what you can do. What if you focused on what is possible. What if you moved beyond your lengthy list of all that’s wrong and not working in your life—and get very clear about what is […]
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Is balance your measuring stick for living fully? Not me.
There are some 35,800,000 results when you Google “work-life balance”. Over 35 million results… It seems many are looking for balance. I’ll admit, the quest for balance has never really resonated with me. Take work-life balance. Does work-life balance mean you spend half your time at work and the other half on your life? Is […]
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Do you want to rebuild or transition?
If your marriage is crumbling, do you rebuild with counseling or do you transition to singlehood? If your business is struggling, do you rebuild with a new line of services or transition to working for someone else? No doubt either path—rebuild or transition—requires effort. But I’ve noticed a great deal more energy—and often fruitless, draining, […]
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It’s time to ask what is out of harmony or in conflict
Are you feeling friction or failing to make progress toward your goals? If so, do a goal doublecheck by asking these harmony and conflict questions. Harmony Are your goals in harmony with each other? Does the achievement of one goal put another in jeopardy? For instance, a client recently had both a promotion at work and […]
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Are you putting off a crucial conversation?
Do you need to step outside your comfort zone and have a big conversation or ask a big question? Are you living small as you continue to put off having a crucial conversation? “I’m afraid to talk with my boss about where I’m headed with the company. I don’t think I’m going to like what […]
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Do you know what your Eeyore moment means?
The other day a client was goal setting when she was suddenly gripped by pessimism: I’m just going to set these goals, but nothing is really going to change… This gloomy outlook was in stark contrast to the mood of the previous weeks where epiphanies were flying about the goals she wanted to set. So […]
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Will the real you please stand up?
“They won’t like me if I act like myself.” That’s what a client worried aloud the other day. She was dreading an upcoming networking event and was already exhausted by the turn-herself-inside-out machinations she anticipated undertaking. To please. To win over. To not offend. I’ve heard many versions of this same sentiment: The fear that […]
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Slip-ups are just a fact of life
Why is it we expect perfection—from ourselves, from others, from life? What’s that about? As a recovering perfectionist who decided a few years ago to actively fight the controlling dis-ease of perfectionism, one of the most effective strategies I’ve adopted is planning ahead for slip-ups. By “planning ahead” I mean: Expecting them—Slip-ups are going to […]
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I want you to stop waiting for permission
There are two groups of people. Those who realize they can give themselves permission and those who are waiting, waiting, waiting for permission from someone else. Permission to… Let’s take the first group: Those who realize they can give themselves permission to… Take a long-sought-after-but-yet-unrealized goal off the radar and revisit it in a year Stop […]
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I used to be lousy at celebrating too
I witness so many of my clients accomplishing amazing things—making drastic career changes, launching businesses, starting blogs and writing books, quadrupling their networks, shedding limiting beliefs, pursuing passions… It’s not that all these accomplishments go smoothly from A to Z. There are setbacks. There are missteps along the way. But there are also amazing milestones […]
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Why do we make it so hard?
Why do we make it so hard? The “it” being anything and everything—our daily endeavors, To Do lists, relationships, jobs…our lives. Do we believe we have to struggle and suffer—that it has to be hard—for it to work? For us to succeed? That if we do it the easy way it means we aren’t trying? […]
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You have goals and things you want. Are you ungrateful?
I consider myself a grateful person. I made a decision years ago to actively choose my mindset when I wake up in the morning, and an attitude of gratitude is one I like to keep front and center. I’m also very much a goal-oriented person. I make plans. I want more. I have ambitions, dreams… […]
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Are you all about the worst-case scenario?
Do you regularly steel yourself for the worst? Does your mind take a little information and run with it into the future thinking about negative scenarios? When faced with anything new or outside your comfort zone, do you assume you’ll fall short, it won’t work out, or that something catastrophic will happen? My spouse says […]
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Why are you keeping your goals a secret?
I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when […]
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