What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted

If your marriage is crumbling, do you rebuild with counseling or do you transition to singlehood?

If your business is struggling, do you rebuild with a new line of services or transition to working for someone else?

No doubt either path—rebuild or transition—requires effort.

But I’ve noticed a great deal more energy—and often fruitless, draining, sometimes even damaging energy—gets expended heading down the path picked for the wrong reasons.

For instance, Jill initially choose to rebuild her failing marriage.

Her motivation? She was trying to hold onto the past and had a fear of moving into the unknown of the future. The energy she exerted trying to rebuild was in vain; the marriage still failed and all her struggle to rebuild only postponed the inevitable transition.

When you think about rebuild versus transition, ask:

  • Are you still committed? (if yes, rebuild)
  • Does it feel like there’s more waiting up ahead than behind? (if yes, transition)
  • Is the essence there needed to start again? (if yes, rebuild)
  • Are you ready to let go of the past and be open to the future? (if yes, transition)

What’s going on in your life right now that warrants an exploration of rebuilding versus transitioning?