Crisis versus awakening—is there a difference?
Recently I’ve been thinking about the distinction between a midlife crisis and midlife awakening. The nature of my work means this isn’t a new topic. In fact, it’s not unusual for a client to question whether she’s having a midlife crisis. So what’s the difference between crisis and awakening? It seems to me a midlife […]
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The day I decided to move to Sweden
A few months ago I decided to move to Sweden. It was during the summer heatwave and the thought of a cooler climate sounded so appealing. As did being someplace more urban. I liked the idea of downsizing too. After all, Sweden is the birthplace of IKEA—the master at utilizing every inch of space with […]
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Where are you on autopilot? Where are you in a rut?
I came across a great quote the other day: The only difference between a rut and a grave is their dimensions. Ouch. That certainly puts a rut in perspective, doesn’t it? The quote comes from John C. Maxwell about how to break out of a rut to avoid the slow death of your dreams. Maxwell’s […]
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Do you want to rebuild or transition?
If your marriage is crumbling, do you rebuild with counseling or do you transition to singlehood? If your business is struggling, do you rebuild with a new line of services or transition to working for someone else? No doubt either path—rebuild or transition—requires effort. But I’ve noticed a great deal more energy—and often fruitless, draining, […]
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Are you all about the worst-case scenario?
Do you regularly steel yourself for the worst? Does your mind take a little information and run with it into the future thinking about negative scenarios? When faced with anything new or outside your comfort zone, do you assume you’ll fall short, it won’t work out, or that something catastrophic will happen? My spouse says […]
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Here are 4 steps for intentional living
I’m in the life design business. While I’m not an expert on anyone’s life but my own, I AM an expert at facilitating individuals through the process of intentional life design. Why intentional living? Because it’s a game changer. It’s a line in the sand between half living and a life fully lived. It’s the […]
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Your life has an expiration date
I think it’s important to have a vision for your life. To design your life rather than live by default. Not a week goes by someone doesn’t pull me aside to ask, What if I don’t know what I want? Well here’s the thing: The first step is admitting you don’t know. The second step is making […]
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Are you waiting to hear back about something you really want?
It’s easy to wait for things to happen. Hope they’ll happen. Pray for them. Wait for better health and fitness. Less stress or more money. Wait for career fulfillment or a better job. Creativity and engagement. Wait for fun or some free time. Better communication and closeness. Wait for a spark of passion. What are you doing […]
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Are you the heroine of your story?
We each have a narrative to tell about our life. It’s interesting what we decide to include—and exclude—in the telling. What’s the story you tell? Do you start from the beginning or do you skip entire chapters? Do you edit out the parts where you flubbed your lines or do you unabashedly recount the missteps […]
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Here are some of the questions I’d ask you
I coach women to live their best lives, and I blog about all kinds of topics… —from goal setting to procrastination, —from the danger of deferring dreams to improving your Say/Do ratio, —from suffering from Someday Syndrome to learning how to sustain momentum, —from choosing your mindset with intention to why pursuing your passion doesn’t […]
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Are you stuck in a setback?
I recently saw an advertisement for a car that said, “Takes bumps easily.” Oh, to be that car! So often we don’t take bumps easily. We can’t see past the bump. We get stuck in the bump. We relive the bump. We let the bump define us. After the setback I’ve noticed two distinct reactions […]
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But don’t you want to look at my resume?
What’s the single most important factor in making a successful career transition? It’s not polishing your resume or letting everyone know you’re looking to make a career change. It’s not upgrading your skills, reading a book about interviewing, or even networking. No, a successful career transition starts in advance of those activities. It begins by […]
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How would you describe your life’s journey?
Chances are there are a number of destinations you’ve planned along your life’s journey. Perhaps to get that promotion or have kids To get healthy or buy a house To spend more time with your family or write a book To go back to school or save for your kids’ education Then there are the […]
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Do you want to keep having what you’re having?
I hear a lot of nos. No, that’s too hard. No, that would be overwhelming. No, I don’t have the energy for that. No, that would take too long. No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. “No” is hard to come back from. It puts the kibosh on what’s possible. Nothing changes if nothing changes. […]
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Have you ever set a DUMB goal?
You’ve probably heard of SMART goals—those that are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. Some say goals crafted within the parameters of SMART make us play it too safe and keep us coloring inside the lines. Welcome to DUMB goals That’s where DUMB goals come into play. There are different interpretations for what constitutes a […]
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