The present would be perfect IF…
Lately I’ve been trying on this mindset: The present is perfect. I have to admit, I’m still practicing this one, still wrapping my mind around it. Because there’s a part of me that wants to say, Yeah, but… The present would be perfect IF… It’s a whole other thing to say the present is perfect—regardless of […]
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Enough with the self-imposed obstacles
I was working with a client who has wanted to write a novel for the past decade. She’s had numerous starts and stops along the way—many times when she managed to sit down and produce a page or two, but then lost steam. The novel had resurfaced again in our coaching, and we explored whether […]
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Mini Mission—Edit your life
Ever been handed an edited version of something you’ve written? Notice how deleting a word here and sentence there makes the whole thing flow more smoothly? How editing makes it easier to read and understand? Makes it better. Well, our lives are like that too. When we edit to remove the unnecessary, a new coherent whole […]
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4 reasons you’re not achieving your goal
A client recently wondered, Why do I keep having the same unrealized goals year after year? We’ve all experienced that disempowering feeling of setting the same goal—yet again. The one that’s left us stymied and frustrated in the past. The one we say we want to achieve, but fail to gain any sustainable traction around. […]
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Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next.
Sometimes you encounter a mindset so powerful it seems like adopting it would give you superpowers. That’s how I feel about this one: Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next. This is the Swiss army knife of mindsets. Multi-purpose, and handy to have in any situation. It can be applied anytime, anywhere. I’ve pulled this […]
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Why are you trying to be a master juggler?
Client: Last week was really crazy. I just need to get better at juggling. Me: What’s the appeal of keeping all those balls in the air? It sounds exhausting. Client: No, it’s just a figure of speech. You know what I mean. I need to be better at handling stuff, multitasking, managing my time. Hmmm….that […]
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What’s your approach to self-care? Is self-care an activity or an attitude? When self-care is perceived as disparate activities—do yoga, drink water instead of soda, journal, eat kale, wear sunscreen, meditate—it’s all too easy to get caught up in the business and busyness of life and skip X, Y, Z acts of self-care. Too many […]
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Are your words working for or against you?
Someone says, I have a problem when they could just as easily have said, I have an opportunity. Problem versus opportunity. Which is the more empowering use of language? I used to find myself habitually saying I’ll try before some task or activity: I’ll try to get to the gym today. I’ll try to find time to […]
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Her default setting: How can I contribute?
I have a friend who has a mindset wired for contribution. Whatever the day, whatever the circumstance, her default setting is: How can I contribute? It’s a marvel to witness the world she creates through this lens of contribution. When she meets someone new. How can I contribute to connecting with this person? When she […]
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What 7 questions will you ask?
Anyone who knows me knows I love questions. The more the better. I’m a big believer in asking questions. A quality question can open the door to discovery and invite breakthrough thinking. It generates insight, which can lead to action and ignite change. Perhaps you have a friend or colleague who’s adept at asking quality […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Stop running on fumes
A lot of people are running on fumes—their reserve tank is empty. Are you one of them? To have a reserve means having more than you need in areas of your life—like personal space, finances, time, energy, rest, etc. Do you have reserves? Or are you running on empty in some area? (Maybe even more than one…) […]
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I can’t make it to that meeting (Really?)
I can’t exercise regularly. I can’t start a business. I can’t make it to that meeting. I can’t change jobs. I’m fascinated by the distinction between can’t versus won’t. And how often we say one when we really mean the other. Can’t vs. Won’t: Can’t is about skill. Won’t is about will. So which is […]
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Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals
1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]
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Is your history weighing you down?
Are you weighed down by your history? Do you have a narrative about your past that disempowers you? We all have a story to tell—whether to others or just ourselves—about how we got to where we are today. Here’s the thing: There are the facts of the story, such as leaving college before graduation, being […]
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I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”
I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”. What I don’t hear enough of is “and”. If only my husband didn’t travel so much for work, I could go back to school. If only I had more money in savings, I could pursue my passion. If only I had more time, I […]
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