Are you suffering from Rigid Goal Syndrome?
Rigid Goal Syndrome is a deal breaker and door closer. Let’s take Mary as an example. Mary has a goal: To buy into a cafe franchise that serves beverages and foodie-oriented morsels. She pursues her goal—researching available options, identifying the right franchise, filling out a lengthy application, strategizing with her spouse how to pull off […]
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4 ways to uncomplicate your life
Have you ever said, It’s complicated as a reason for not making the changes you say you want in your life? Your work situation is complicated. Or your marriage. Your financial situation is complicated. Or your relationship with your parents or kids. One of the reasons we keep our lives so complicated is so we […]
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Is your group of 5 dragging you down?
You’ve probably heard the expression: You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. While I’m pretty sure that’s not a scientific fact, it is food for thought. Another way to look at it is: Garbage in, garbage out. Of course, not that any person is garbage, but let’s face it: […]
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Sorry, not feeling like it isn’t good enough
One of my clients is writing a novel and has a daily word count goal. After months of maintaining her writing streak, she’s been struggling lately. Some mornings I feel bogged down before I even start. I know I can get to the end result and produce something, but sometimes I just don’t feel like […]
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Do you need to watch out for the big bad wolf?
Once upon a time…the sun is shining, the birds are singing, everything’s rosy, and all is right with the world. Success is in the air. You’re at the top of your game. Things are going smoothly. Just like a fairy tale. But is there something lurking in the shadows that could get in the way […]
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Is it crazy to quit your job when you’re successful?
Remember a few years ago when I quit my job and everyone said I was crazy? Remember that? People said, But you’ve already invested so many years in your field. And, But the money! How are you going to replace a six-figure salary? And then there was this: You want to be WHAT!? A life […]
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How do you want to work, play, love and live?
I love asking people to describe their ideal day. What time it starts. How they greet the day. Their morning routine. I love to hear about the adventure they would make of their day. The work they would get lost in. Their creative pursuits. How they would contribute. All the ways they would connect. How […]
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What 7 questions are on your mind?
There’s nothing better than a good question. You know the kind. A juicy question that starts the wheels turning. One that invites breakthrough thinking and offers newfound clarity. Those are the kind of quality questions I love. The problem is, sometimes we have to wait a long time before someone asks us the kind of […]
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The truth is hard to escape
Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts. – Soren Kierkegaard Ouch. This is one of those expressions that hits home, whether we want it to or not. Because what if we look around at our lives and don’t like what we see? The truth is hard to escape. The problem is often […]
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You’re unhappy with your job, but please don’t do this
Not a week goes by that someone doesn’t pull me aside at a coffee shop to confess they hate their job. I’ve noticed shortly after sharing their discontent, they say some version of I really need to update my resume and start looking. No, no, no. It seems like a good impulse. You’re unhappy with […]
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It didn’t occur to me to be embarrassed
The other day I was browsing at the bookstore. Two women walked by and when they got close to where I was standing, one nearly dragged the other away saying, Oh, I don’t like to be seen in that aisle. It’s just too embarrassing. I was standing in the Self-Improvement aisle. I stood there for a […]
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A friction-filled life is not just the way it is
Where’s the friction in your life? Where do you feel tension or experience resistance? Where is there disharmony or a drag on your energy? Friction comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe it’s the strained relationship with your mother-in-law or last-minute requests from your boss. Maybe it shows up when you think about your retirement […]
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5 questions to figure out what you crave
Some people are lucky. They’ve always known what they crave. Others (like me) have done the heavy lifting of exploration to figure it out. And still others are waiting. Hoping it will become clear. Hoping for a flash of insight. Well, the flash may indeed come, but what if it doesn’t? And while you’re waiting, […]
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The story of the worst boss I ever had
She was a taskmaster. Never celebrated a single achievement. Always raised the bar higher with each success. Nothing was ever good enough. She set entirely unsustainable work hours. Frowned on vacations and believed weekends were time to get extra work done. The client was always right—even if it meant staying until the wee hours to […]
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Get unstuck with these 3 easy questions
I love having tools at the ready in my toolkit. Sometimes the simplest tools are the best. They let you get in, get what you need, and get on with life. So here’s a tool I rely on to sift through mental clutter, gain insight into the crux of the matter, and then move forward. […]
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