You’re too old and just not that lucky
One of my superpowers is detecting limiting beliefs and false assumptions. They’re rotten for your confidence and your future. You know, thoughts like I’m just not lucky or I’m too old to make a career change. Here’s what I believe: There are enough external obstacles in life without putting internal ones in your way too. […]
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Dear Inner Critic: Here are 5 things I want to tell you
My Inner Critic is a mean girl. And to be honest, I don’t much like her. She’s a glass half empty kind of gal. She’s overly blunt, kind of whiny, and has zero bedside manner. She’s the kind of girl who will pull the chair out from under you if you’re not paying attention. And […]
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Maybe it’s not a lack of willpower…but a missing skill
You’re asked to use software completely unfamiliar to you… You try a complicated new cooking technique… You take on new responsibilities at work outside your expertise…. What happens? You struggle. At least at first. And if you never build the skill or acquire the knowledge you need, you’ll probably continue to struggle. Gap in skills and […]
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Your life purpose: 43 questions you need to ask yourself
Are you on autopilot, going through the motions, just getting by? Maybe feeling discontent and a little aimless. Are you struggling with your direction and purpose? If so, chances are you have Compass tolerations. Compass tolerations show up when you’re: Not fully engaged in some part of your life Living out of alignment with your […]
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Tolerations: Are you feeling frustrated in these 8 ways?
Did you know there are 8 different types of tolerations? Oh wait—are you saying, “What the heck is a toleration?” Well, a toleration is just a semi-fancy way of referring to things you’re reluctantly putting up with. You could also call them energy vampires, the gunk of life, or holes in your personal success cup. Whatever […]
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Sometimes I don’t like the answer to this question
Every month I do a monthly check-in of what I call the 4Rs—the Right questions to Reconnect, Recalibrate, and Recommit. The session takes about an hour. I reflect on the past month and answer a series of 20 thought-provoking questions that help me reconnect to what I want for the year, recalibrate my goals, and […]
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Ask these 4 questions to know if it’s a toleration
Tolerations have been called energy vampires, the gunk of life, holes in your personal success cup, and static playing in the background of your life. All those descriptions are true. But I think the best definition is simply: Tolerations are all the things you are reluctantly putting up with. Can you relate? Because you’re probably […]
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Are SMART goals really all that smart?
SMART is an acronym of adjectives related to goal setting. Each letter represents something your goal should have. S is for specific M is for measurable A is for actionable R is for realistic T is for time-bound It’s amazing how easy it is to set a goal that isn’t SMART. Like Lose 10 pounds […]
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Mini Mission—Stop sacrificing pleasure to productivity
I like my coffee piping hot. But last week I noticed this: I re-heated my single cup of morning coffee six times because I kept getting distracted and it cooled off. Six times. And it was only 8 ounces of coffee. I didn’t really even notice the first couple times I stuck my mug in […]
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Will this be your deathbed regret?
One of the most common deathbed regrets is: I wish I had let myself be happier. Doesn’t that thought just make you ache? I know it does me. It causes a near-physical pain. Because notice it says “I wish I had let myself be happier.” Had let myself be present instead of busy Had let […]
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Here are 12 things that get in the way of ease
My word for the year is ease…the absence of difficulty or effort. Just thinking about ease makes me take a deep breath and relax. Even feel a little happier. My life already has a lot of ease in it. I’ve made certain choices the last few years to move toward ease. Leaving a career I […]
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Do the footwork and stay out of the results
Do the footwork and stay out of the results. Do the footwork and stay out of the results. That’s what you’d see on any given day if thought bubbles appeared over my head. For instance, I’m thinking it right now because I want to write a blog post that resonates and is useful to you. […]
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Pesky tolerations are more costly than you think
Imagine I ask you to name 3 results you want to create in your life. You name them. Then suppose I ask, What might get in the way of achieving those 3 results? Even before you tell me, I know the answer. Let’s try it right now. First, you have do your part and reveal […]
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I don’t want to be a meteorologist on The Weather Channel
We had 11.2 inches of snow a few days ago. So, of course, everyone was talking about the weather. The polar vortex, wind chill, feels like temperature, snowfall amounts, icy this and arctic that… In the space of a single day, I had a dozen weather-related conversations. The weather was the opening of conversation and […]
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How to avoid the Year of the Big Ham
It’s the early days of December. This can be a hectic time of year as the holidays come with a lot of pressure and expectation. Our first year together, I fixed a 20-pound ham for just Hans and me. It even had pineapples stuck on top with toothpicks—just like my Mom used to do it. […]
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