You do not need others to be different to feel good
What does it mean when you encounter low-vibe, negative people? And how should you deal with them? This could be your boss or a colleague at work. Perhaps it’s your negative spouse or low-vibe mother-in-law. Maybe it’s a good friend or your next door neighbor. Or maybe you are encountering low-vibes and negativity from the […]
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Your worth and productivity do not equate
How much did you get done today? How many tasks did you mark off your To Do list? And how do you feel about yourself? Are you someone who feels good when you get lots done, but not so great when you’re less productive? Because here’s the thing: Your worth and productivity do not equate. […]
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Here’s what happens when you complain and criticize
Many of us are on autopilot when it comes to behaviors and mindsets that lower our point of attraction. We complain and criticize. We find fault with others and judge all day long. And we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s just the backdrop of our daily lives. You blame your spouse for making […]
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It’s no fun being addicted to approval
I used to want everyone to like me. And I wanted everyone around me to be happy. More to the point, I was driven to be accepted, to be approved of, to be liked. To be considered a nice person. It wasn’t a pretty picture. Addicted to approval I said yes to client requests that […]
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Are you living without margin?
Living without margin means… Back-to-back appointments. Errands stacked like dominoes, one after the other. Deadlines with no time to spare. Everything blurred together in an endless, task-driven loop. Getting through this so you can go on to that. No wiggle room. No breathing room. A life with margin means… a ridiculously doable To Do list sensible expectations unclouded by […]
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Here’s what happened when I finally got fed up
Does this sound familiar? You sort through the mail and find yet another promotional offer from one of your credit card companies. Or even worse, those dastardly cash advance checks. You know—the ones that try to tempt you into credit card debt while simultaneously making you fear unauthorized use if they get in the wrong […]
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Is it hard to decide what to cut from your life?
Our To Do lists are long, we’re in a perpetual state of overwhelm, and it feels like too many days are slipping away. But when it comes to deciding what commitments to cut, what obligations to drop, what stuff to get rid of, and what routines to simplify, we get stuck. We won’t even take […]
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Why you don’t want to be on the freeway with me
OK, confession time. I’ve developed a really annoying habit. One that makes any car ride on the interstate a nightmare—for me and whoever is driving, which is usually Hans. I’ve gone from being something of a backseat driver to a very fearful passenger who’s constantly gasping as if we’re about to crash and pushing my […]
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How to ward off energy vampires (try these 5 ways)
The other day I woke up in a fine mood. The sun was shining. I felt grateful for the day ahead and full roster of clients. I was looking forward to my favorite wood-fired pizza for lunch. Life was good. Then the battle for my energy began. The energy battle A friend called to complain about […]
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It’s a great big beautiful world, but…
It’s a great big beautiful world out there. Full of amazing wonder. And we’re living in an incredible age. Full of possibility. And, of course, we’re also living in a world filled with things that vex us. That are not the way we want them to be. Or think they should be. World tolerations There […]
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Mind your own business and have more energy
If your spouse, children, parents, boss, coworkers, neighbors, and friends would just do what you want, you’d be a whole lot happier. Right? Imagine you could wave a magic wand and get everyone in line with your wants, needs, and preferences. It would immediately and automatically eliminate a significant amount of friction, frustration, and energy […]
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Are you feeling frumpy in your clothes?
Tolerations are anything you’re reluctantly putting up with that cause friction, frustration, and drain your energy. While there are 8 types of tolerations, Body tolerations are about how you look and feel in your body. I’m sure you can see why this is a category of tolerations unto itself, because most women have a lot […]
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Bad behavior: When you get in your own way
Tolerations are things you’re reluctantly putting up with—and can include your own behavior. While there are 8 types of tolerations, Behavior tolerations can be particularly exasperating because it’s you you’re putting up with. For example, do you work too many hours and over promise at work? Do a lot of mindless eating and get too […]
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Do these thoughts make you feel bad?
Ellen hurt my feeling when she turned down my invitation. I’m worried whether I’ll get the promotion at work. My presentation needs to be absolutely perfect. I’m so confused and really don’t know what to do. I want to start my own business, but am afraid of failing. Sue didn’t seem very pleased with my […]
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8 ways you’re sabotaging your success (right now)
Are you starting a project or getting some new venture underway? Maybe you’re launching a new program, creating a new product, or leading a new initiative within your department at work. External factors might get in the way of your success. But just as likely is YOU getting in your own way. While self-sabotage can […]
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