I think we’re scared to death of having more energy
I want you to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. Go ahead, I’ll wait. In one column, write down what gives you energy. In the other column, list everything you can think of that drains your energy. Really, I mean it. Pull out a piece of paper and spend a […]
Stop using lack of clarity as an excuse
Do you wish you had more clarity about something in your life? Maybe you’re thinking about changing careers, but unsure what kind of job would be a better fit. Maybe you want to simplify your overbusy life, but have no idea how to untangle yourself from shoulds and have tos. Maybe you’re looking to turn […]
Mini Mission—Set a daily intention
I believe in the power of thoughts, which is why I set a daily intention. I think of an intention as “done on purpose” thinking. And so setting a daily intention is deliberately deciding what I want for the day. Not like getting items on a To Do list done. Or working toward my goals. […]
Want to feel lousy? Listen to the voice of resistance.
Steven Pressfield popularized the term resistance in The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles I nearly had whiplash the first time I read this book from nodding so enthusiastically in agreement. It’s one of those life-changing reads. Very simply put: Pressfield says we encounter the resistance any time […]
My manifesto revisited: 33 ways to live
What do you believe in and stand for? What principles guide your daily thoughts and actions? How do you intend to live? I sat down one day last year and asked myself those very questions. An hour or so later, I had my manifesto, a declaration expressing my intentions and views. You can see the […]
Are you doomed if you don’t make the right decision?
A client and I were recently talking about how to make a no-lose decision. It reminded me how much I’ve benefited from Susan Jeffer’s approach to decision-making outlined in Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway We’ve been taught to be very careful about making decisions. Very careful as in highly anxious, second […]
I have to have all the answers
When’s the last time you said, “I don’t know”? Has it been awhile? Do your think admitting you don’t know signals weakness? Do you fear saying I don’t know makes you look less competent or even stupid? Going through life with the mindset you should have all the answers is asking for trouble. You’re one question […]
What would it take to get unstuck?
Are you stuck? Stuck in an old habit, a dead-end relationship, an unfulfilling job? Stuck in a limiting belief, an out of shape body, a fear that’s holding you back… What would it take to get unstuck? What one thing can you do today—perhaps even right now—as a first step? That one thing could be […]
I’m just not one of those creative types
I’m just not creative. My job isn’t creative. I’m not one of those creative types. I don’t make anything, so I’m not really creative. Creative is not just painting a picture or developing a product. It’s not only being a photographer or writer. Creativity isn’t for some special group of people—a group to which you […]
Are you afraid to rock the boat?
Overheard: “I don’t want to tell him how I really feel. It will rock the boat.” Granted, I have no context here. How she really feels could be about the living room paint color he picked out, who she likes in the upcoming mayoral election, or wanting to have a baby. But my vote is […]