Do you see yourself in these low-energy choices?
There is energy associated with every choice you make. A low-energy choice leaves you feeling drained, conflicted, stuck, disconnected, fearful, frustrated, hopeless, and ready to crawl back into bed. You contract into a low-energy choice, and it leaves you feeling “less than”. Do you see yourself in any of these low-energy choices? Negativity This low-energy […]
I never make the right decision
Do you constantly second guess yourself? Do you frequently question whether you made the right decision? Are you always wondering if you should have chosen differently? I have a friend who does this regarding nearly every decision she makes, big or small. She orders a Greek salad and then wonders if she should have gone […]
Life is too short to be bored
Hearing someone say I’m bored or My life is boring is like nails on a chalkboard. It causes a visceral flinch. Bored? Boring? Really? In this day—at any age—is boredom even possible? Well, apparently it is if you believe it is. Our mindsets become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe your life is boring, it’s the lens […]
React vs. respond: Do you know the difference?
Have you ever thought about the difference between a reaction and a response? On the surface, they may seem similar, but the distinction makes a difference. A reaction A reaction is the knee jerk. Someone is rude to you and you react in a rude manner in return. We’ve all been there. Reacted, swiftly and without […]
The “findings” from my unscientific study surprise me
Here’s the question on my mind lately: Is busy a choice? So I conducted an informal experiment this week. I paid special attention to what people said when I asked, How are you? Ten of 12 responded with some variation of busy. Oh my gosh, this summer is so busy I can’t catch my breath. I […]
Are you dimming your light in these 33 ways?
I just reread Debbie Ford’s The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life. Quite simply, I love this book. I first read it back in 2003 and have probably reread it every year since. In addition, I sometimes just pull it from my bookshelf, let the pages fall open, and […]
Are you sabotaging yourself with limiting beliefs?
Lately it seems there’s an epidemic of limiting beliefs. Has everyone caught a debilitating case of self-sabotage? I can’t… I’m not… It won’t… Limiting beliefs aren’t the only thing preventing you from achieving your goals and creating the life you want, but they certainly play a role. Here’s what I believe: Limiting beliefs hold you […]
Crisis versus awakening—is there a difference?
Recently I’ve been thinking about the distinction between a midlife crisis and midlife awakening. The nature of my work means this isn’t a new topic. In fact, it’s not unusual for a client to question whether she’s having a midlife crisis. So what’s the difference between crisis and awakening? It seems to me a midlife […]
Are you the heroine of your story?
We each have a narrative to tell about our life. It’s interesting what we decide to include—and exclude—in the telling. What’s the story you tell? Do you start from the beginning or do you skip entire chapters? Do you edit out the parts where you flubbed your lines or do you unabashedly recount the missteps […]
Are you stuck in a setback?
I recently saw an advertisement for a car that said, “Takes bumps easily.” Oh, to be that car! So often we don’t take bumps easily. We can’t see past the bump. We get stuck in the bump. We relive the bump. We let the bump define us. After the setback I’ve noticed two distinct reactions […]