What if you don’t have to have all the answers?
Recently one of my clients shared she feels the need to have all the answers in work situations, especially with clients. This pressure to always have the right answer at the ready is causing a lot of stress—not to mention the massive preparation it requires for any client interaction. And even with all that prep time, she […]
5 ways being a taskmaster is no fun
Hey, I have someone I’d like you to meet! She’s a demanding kill-joy who will make you feel lousy about yourself and is never any fun. Certainly doesn’t sound like your first choice for company, does it? And yet you very likely hang out with her all the time. It’s your inner taskmaster. And she’s […]
Organizing and managing are not the answer
We have too many things and situations in our lives we’re trying to organize and manage. Our closets overflow with clutter and we think, If only I could get organized. Our calendars spill over with commitments and we think, If only I could manage my time more effectively. Our lives are filled with tension and worry […]
Read this when you start jumping to conclusions
While it’s a little early for Halloween, I’d like to talk about mind readers and fortune tellers. No, not those kind. I’m talking about thinking distortions that come from jumping to conclusions. Here’s what happens: Rather than rely on evidence to come to a logical conclusion, mind readers and fortune tellers focus on a negative […]
I have to have all the answers
When’s the last time you said, “I don’t know”? Has it been awhile? Do your think admitting you don’t know signals weakness? Do you fear saying I don’t know makes you look less competent or even stupid? Going through life with the mindset you should have all the answers is asking for trouble. You’re one question […]
Mini Mission—Edit your life
Ever been handed an edited version of something you’ve written? Notice how deleting a word here and sentence there makes the whole thing flow more smoothly? How editing makes it easier to read and understand? Makes it better. Well, our lives are like that too. When we edit to remove the unnecessary, a new coherent whole […]
Everything has to be perfect
Everything has to be perfect. I can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. I have to be perfect. While there are many variations to only perfection will do, the perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you know you’re going to come up […]
How will you add in some unexpected good today?
I love birthdays. I also love anything I can do proactively to reduce potential stress. Like when I look at the calendar, see someone’s special day is right around the corner, and realize I don’t have a card to send. So I recently ordered several birthday cards from Papyrus to have on hand. Last minute […]
Three simple questions about more, less & different
Autumn is underway and it’s the perfect time to reflect and cast off what you don’t want to take into the new year. Yes, I’m already talking about the new year. Because the new year is just 77 days around the corner. I find once the holidays are underway—which are also just around the corner—many of […]
On the one hand, I’m all for less is more
Many women are trying to subtract things from their lives. …eat less …spend less …get rid of clutter …be less stressed Less is more There’s a movement underway to get back to the basics. To move away from possession-cluttered, debt-overloaded, work-burdened, and time-starved lives. To make lifestyle choices that minimize the “more is better” mindset—and […]