Warning: Your serenity and sanity are at risk
Are you so overwhelmed that you don’t have the time or energy to do anything about why you’re overwhelmed to begin with? It’s a maddening conundrum, isn’t it? Your To Do list is mostly undone, work has reached its tentacles way beyond an 8-hour day, and life keeps presenting you with unexpected hurdles. Most days […]
Will this matter a year from now?
Richard Carlson wrote: Ask yourself this question: ’Will this matter a year from now?’ You get stuck in traffic or make a mistake at work. The project is delayed or you have an argument with your spouse. The client bails or your inbox is overflowing. Carlson wants you to stop sweating the small stuff by […]
Everything has to be perfect vs. Done is better than perfect
The perfect holiday. The perfect performance. The perfect house. The perfect life. Everything has to be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. You have to be perfect. The perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you […]
Some women actually think self-care is selfish
This is a dangerous lie that ignores basic facts about mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. This lie—self-care is selfish—leads to worn out, frazzled, harried, stressed, overwhelmed women. It’s not a pretty sight. It’s wonderful to do for others. But it crosses the line into unhealthy when it’s at the sacrifice of yourself. Think of […]
Saying “it’s complicated” is just a big excuse
Do you have a special talent for making things difficult, overly involved, convoluted? In other words, for making life more complicated than it needs to be. Perhaps you’ve created a complex process for filing your emails, recycling the garbage, celebrating holidays or tracking your finances. And do you find yourself defending the complexity by saying, […]
Why I canceled my magazine subscriptions
Magazines are so enticing. You see them on the newsstand with their glossy images of possibility and airbrushed perfection. You find that little card inside saying you can have a whole year’s worth for only $19.95. Just mail it back on impulse. They’ll bill you later. And if you’re like me, you’ll keep paying and […]
3 ways to simplify—and really enjoy—the holidays
The holidays are just around the corner. And for every Christmas carol playing on the radio, I hear someone complaining about crowds at the mall and stressing over finding the perfect gift. Don’t let this time of year wreak havoc on your serenity. Here are three ways to simplify—and really enjoy—the holidays. Don’t aim for […]
4 ways to uncomplicate your life
Have you ever said, It’s complicated as a reason for not making the changes you say you want in your life? Your work situation is complicated. Or your marriage. Your financial situation is complicated. Or your relationship with your parents or kids. One of the reasons we keep our lives so complicated is so we […]
Awareness is easy. Action is hard.
It’s much easier to linger in awareness Than get into action Awareness is easy It almost seems to happen to us The light bulb goes on And we can see With new eyes If we’re open and curious The Aha! moment comes There is no heavy lifting We ease into awareness It almost seems to […]
What do you want freedom from?
What do you want freedom from? The stress and anxiety of an overscheduled life? Too much time spent working to make a living without having a life? The friction and energy drain of trying to keep up with the Joneses? What do you want freedom from? Focusing more on money than meaning? Living for the […]