I’m just not energized by my work anymore
I recently worked with two women, each who came to coaching with her own unique version of I’m not energized by my work anymore. Too much on her plate The first client had too much on her plate. And it didn’t get there by accident. Poor boundaries and people pleasing had her saying “yes” too […]
I don’t want to be in debt
There are some questions that almost guarantee an interesting conversation. What’s your ideal life? is one of them. Which is why I love asking this question. I’ve noticed, though, in describing their ideal life, most respond with a laundry list of what they don’t want. I don’t want to be in debt. I don’t want to […]
Read this when you start jumping to conclusions
While it’s a little early for Halloween, I’d like to talk about mind readers and fortune tellers. No, not those kind. I’m talking about thinking distortions that come from jumping to conclusions. Here’s what happens: Rather than rely on evidence to come to a logical conclusion, mind readers and fortune tellers focus on a negative […]
If you don’t know, who does?
I’ve noticed many women say, I don’t know when asked about what they think or feel or want. What do you think will help you take better care of yourself? I don’t know. What kind of work do you think you’d be happier doing? I don’t know. What do you want for your next chapter? I […]
6 reasons authenticity is the way forward
Life presents us with so many occasions to be stuck and confused. Even feel a little lost sometimes. You’re unhappy in your career, but not sure what to do next. You’re worried about your relationship, but fear looking too closely. You want more meaning in your life, but aren’t sure how to get it. You’re […]
Mini Mission—Own your power
Are you giving away your power? Giving away your personal power diminishes you and erodes your ability to create change in your life. You might be giving away your power by: blaming others looking backward instead of forward not listening to your intuition trying to be someone you’re not people pleasing letting others decide what’s […]
Mini Mission—Establish or renegotiate a boundary
How are your boundaries? Established and strong? Or vague (even to you, but especially to others) and weak? Many of my coaching clients are working on setting stronger boundaries as a critical component of self-care. They’re tired of saying “yes” when they really want to say “no.” They’re frustrated by taking on commitments and then […]
I am vulnerable when …
In the last couple weeks, Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead has come up in conversation a dozen times. Seriously. 12 times. Although most people simply refer to: You know, that book about vulnerability. Several conversations were with coaching clients, which makes sense […]
Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?
The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]
Do you feel like you’re enough?
I had an epiphany of sort a few days ago: I am enough. I’ve read about feeling enough. Heard about it. Wanted it. But I’ve never felt it. Not truly. Not through and through. I’m not sure how it happened exactly. There’s been a lot jettisoned over the last few years. Peeling off expectations. Shedding […]