• Dear Abby: Why asking experts is a problem

    I think tapping into your own intuition, your own inner knowing, is way better than getting advice from a quote-unquote expert. Dear Abby might have knowledge, but not your inner knowing. Your Inner Being will always rise above the expert. I’m using “Dear Abby” as a catchall…this includes looking to experts for your answers, living by […]

  • Are your thoughts in the direction of joy?

    To better understand the Law of Attraction, see yourself as a magnet attracting unto you the essence of that which you are thinking and feeling. And so, if you are feeling fat, you cannot attract thin. If you feel poor, you cannot attract prosperity, and so on. It defies Law. —The Law of Attraction: The […]

  • Do these thoughts make you feel bad?

    Ellen hurt my feeling when she turned down my invitation. I’m worried whether I’ll get the promotion at work. My presentation needs to be absolutely perfect. I’m so confused and really don’t know what to do. I want to start my own business, but am afraid of failing. Sue didn’t seem very pleased with my […]

  • You’re too old and just not that lucky

    One of my superpowers is detecting limiting beliefs and false assumptions. They’re rotten for your confidence and your future. You know, thoughts like I’m just not lucky or I’m too old to make a career change. Here’s what I believe: There are enough external obstacles in life without putting internal ones in your way too. […]

  • Those are the facts, but what’s the story?

    You hit the snooze a few times, try on four outfits before settling on what to wear, and get stuck in traffic on your way to work. Those are the facts. But what’s the story you tell? Is it: Once upon a time I had a horrible, awful, terrible start to my day. I can […]

  • What do you do after you say, I don’t know how?

    What do you do after you say, I don’t know how? I’d like to find more meaningful work, but I don’t know how. I’d like to start a blog, but I don’t know how. I’d love to try travel hacking, but don’t know how to do it. I know it’s time to negotiate a higher […]

  • 4 disempowering things you need to stop doing

    Life puts obstacles in our path, no doubt. But just as often we get in our own way. Here are four disempowering habits to drop today. 1. Letting your past predict your future. Your past is just that — past. There doesn’t have to be a straight line from where you’ve been to where you’re […]

  • No matter how hard you try, you can’t outwit this formula

    Thoughts lead to behavior. Behavior creates results. This is one of those formulas you can’t outwit or work around. It’s simple and true and just is. When you’re not getting the results you want in your life, all you have to do is look at your thoughts. Because your thoughts are leading to your behavior. […]

  • Are your words working for or against you?

    Someone says, I have a problem when they could just as easily have said, I have an opportunity. Problem versus opportunity. Which is the more empowering use of language? I used to find myself habitually saying I’ll try before some task or activity: I’ll try to get to the gym today. I’ll try to find time to […]

  • Mindset: What can I contribute?

    Her default setting:  How can I contribute?

    I have a friend who has a mindset wired for contribution. Whatever the day, whatever the circumstance, her default setting is: How can I contribute? It’s a marvel to witness the world she creates through this lens of contribution. When she meets someone new. How can I contribute to connecting with this person? When she […]