I think tapping into your own intuition, your own inner knowing, is way better than getting advice from a quote-unquote expert.
Dear Abby might have knowledge, but not your inner knowing. Your Inner Being will always rise above the expert.
I’m using “Dear Abby” as a catchall…this includes looking to experts for your answers, living by committee where you poll friends and family about what you should do, seeking approval and needing others to give you permission, and looking around to see what everyone else is doing and then doing that.
Do any of those sound familiar?
Why Dear Abby is a problem
Let’s look at the disempowering pitfalls of relying on Dear Abby.
- Looking to an outside expert assumes you don’t know best and reflects a lack of self-trust.
- Looking outside yourself for answers gives away your power.
- If you don’t cultivate conversations with your intuition, you can’t get better at asking and hearing and acting on what your intuition tells you.
- When you rely on Dear Abby, you’re making someone else responsible for your life. They get the credit or they get the blame. Either way is disempowering.
- No one has your best interests at heart like your own Inner Being. Not even your best friend or family—no matter how well intentioned.
“You must train your intuition—you must trust the small voice inside you which tells you exactly what to say, what to decide.” —Ingrid Bergman
Disempowering versus empowering
I think we really need to train ourselves to pay attention to our intuition.
Because looking outside yourself for your answers is disempowering. Looking to experts and living by committee is disempowering.
And since empowerment is at the high end of the emotional scale, it’s one of those super attractor feelings. Feeling empowered, vibrating at the frequency of empowerment, is a fantastic point of attraction.
Which means the very act of communicating with your intuition helps you leverage Law of Attraction to your advantage.
“Cease trying to work everything out with your minds. It will get you nowhere. Live by intuition and inspiration and let your whole life be Revelation.” —Eileen Caddy
Now, I might get outside advice if I need how-to steps for programming the DVR or setting up a new printer. But as far as looking outside yourself for what to do or who you are, that’s not Dear Abby’s job to have those answers. That’s an inside job.
The role of intuition
That’s where your intuition can very likely play a much bigger role in your life.
“Intuition is a spiritual faculty and does not explain, but simply points the way.” —Florence Scovel Shinn
If you’re like me, you can always benefit from being shown the way—the way forward, the way to live, the way to love, the way.
Living without guidance from your intuition means a lot of friction and often confusion. Energy leaks out as you try to make decisions. Should I take the job? Do I want to go back to school? Should I stay in my marriage?
When you’re cut off from intuition, you make exhaustive lists of pros and cons, fearful of choosing the wrong path. On the other hand, when you make decisions with your intuition there’s ease and flow, and a knowing.
“Don’t try to comprehend with your mind. Your minds are very limited. Use your intuition.” —Madeleine L’Engle
Intuitive decision-making
Intuitive decision-making is just easy. There’s no kicking the tires or angst or taking a survey of everyone around you to see what they think.
“Notice what happens when you follow your intuitive feelings. The result is usually increased energy and power, and a sense of things flowing.” —Shakti Gawain
Intuitive decision-making isn’t about pros and cons. Because let’s face it—you can make an argument on both sides for just about anything—if that’s how you want to make decisions. But that can be exhausting. You live in a swirl of what if this, but what if this…
“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” —Oprah Winfrey
Intuition running the show
My intuition is my decision-maker, best friend and confidant, my compass, my sounding board and cheerleader. In fact, my intuition is now running the show. And I couldn’t be more thrilled to let intuition make my decisions.
- Not too long ago intuition encouraged me to get off nearly all social media. So I happily closed down Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn…and it was THE BEST decision.
- Intuition told me it was time to get rid of my coaching packages that obligated clients to a certain number of sessions over a specific period of time. Even though this is what’s typical in the coaching industry, my intuition very clearly said, “Let people coach with you when the spirit moves them.” And it was THE BEST decision.
- Intuition even told me to start a podcast! Which is funny since I would have said I wasn’t interested in podcasting. No way. Totally not on my radar. But intuition spoke loud and clear. And it turns out the podcast is the MOST FUN thing I’ve ever done in my business.
Now, if you’re thinking: “I would rather ask an expert. Hey, I like to go to my friends for advice. Or, “Yeah, nice for you, but I really don’t have an inner voice.” I get it.
I used to think I didn’t have or hear my intuition either. So I know what it’s like to be living without this inner guidance.
“Close both eyes to see with the other eye.” —Rumi
But now I know the contrast—what it’s like with access to my inner knowing versus living without it. All I can say is life is so much easier, so much more magical, so much lighter with access to my intuition than without it.
It’s really cool to tap into a part of yourself that is pure love and peace. That is wholly encouraging and always vibrating at the level of the solution.
Intuition knows best
Here’s what I believe: Intuition knows best. When I ignore my intuition, which I still sometimes do, I always regret it. Hindsight always shows me intuition knew best.
Intuition keeps me in flow. When I ignore intuition, I invariably start going upstream where things are harder and way less enjoyable.
“I feel there are two people inside me—me and my intuition. If I go against her, she’ll screw me every time, and if I follow her, we get along quite nicely.” – Kim Basinger
Now, I don’t see it quite as harshly as Kim does, but I know what she means. When I follow intuition, life flows. When I don’t, there’s friction. Every single time.
When you’re hearing from your intuition, you’re aligned with your Inner Being, with Source, with a high vibrational frequency. And Law of Attraction will respond.
“If prayer is you talking to God, then intuition is God talking to you.” —Wayne Dyer
It’s time to ask your intuition
If you need ideas for what to talk about with your intuition, start here. Take an area of your life where you’ve been…
- Looking to experts for answers—and ask your intuition instead.
- Living by committee, polling friends and family about what you should do—and ask your intuition instead.
- Deciding what to do by comparison, maybe looking at Facebook or Instagram—and ask your intuition instead.
- Seeking approval or permission—and ask your intuition instead.
If one of those situations doesn’t apply, skip it. But for any that do apply to your life, write to your intuition for guidance.
Remember, YOUR intuition is your compass and decision-maker, your friend and confidant, your sounding board and cheerleader. Your intuition is wise and loving, encouraging and peaceful.
Stop looking to experts for answers. Instead, what does your intuition say?
