• What happens when you say “hard” and “difficult” dozens of times?

    I had coffee with a new acquaintance and she used the words “hard” and “difficult” at least three dozen times in a 30-minute period. I know because I started counting after the first few. Holding up a mirror Now, before you think I’m mean-spirited, I started counting because I wanted to give her constructive feedback. […]

  • What one result do you most want to achieve in the next 90 days?

    I’m not trying to nag. At the same time, I want to hold you accountable for your goals. You said you want ____ [go ahead, fill in the blank]. Maybe you want to launch a blog or leave a soul-sapping job. Maybe your goal is to declutter your house or re-enter the dating world. Or […]

  • 5 questions to figure out what you crave

    Some people are lucky. They’ve always known what they crave. Others (like me) have done the heavy lifting of exploration to figure it out. And still others are waiting. Hoping it will become clear. Hoping for a flash of insight. Well, the flash may indeed come, but what if it doesn’t? And while you’re waiting, […]

  • Things I would put in the crusher

    If I could, I would put limiting beliefs in the crusher I would put mine in And I would put in yours too Things like I’m just no good at… A person like me could never… I should be… I’m not creative enough… I mustn’t because I might fail… I would put them in, one […]

  • Not now doesn't mean not ever

    Not now doesn’t mean not ever

    I’m a collector of mindsets. I notice them in myself. I listen for them in other people. I love reading about them. I write about them. I try them on to see what the world looks like through their lens. And I’m always on the lookout for mindsets I haven’t encountered before. Several years ago […]

  • Reframe limiting beliefs in 6 steps

    Limiting beliefs are sure to keep you stuck

    I watch otherwise smart and capable people stay stuck day after day because of limiting beliefs. The person who says, I’m just not creative foregoes opportunities to create. The person who says, I’ve never been able to stick with things stops setting goals altogether. The person who says, I’m not good at networking and wouldn’t really know how […]

  • I’m just not one of those creative types

    I’m just not creative.  My job isn’t creative. I’m not one of those creative types. I don’t make anything, so I’m not really creative. Creative is not just painting a picture or developing a product. It’s not only being a photographer or writer. Creativity isn’t for some special group of people—a group to which you […]

  • It’s too late for me to make a career change

    Not a week goes by someone doesn’t confide in me they’re unhappy in their work. Alongside the woe of work, I frequently hear some version of but I can’t change careers. I’m 10 years in. I can’t waste the time I’ve already invested. It’s what my degree is in. It’s too late for me to […]