• If your desires are meant for you, why the negative emotion?

    There is something you want. Some goal you want to achieve. Some shiny penny you want to acquire. Some experience you want to have. I know there is something you want to manifest. In fact, probably many somethings. Part of this amazing life experience is we have desires. We want to achieve certain goals and […]

  • 8 ways to stop breaking promises to yourself

    One of my responsibilities as a coach is to provide my clients with external accountability. You want to get 10 new clients this quarter? What will you do to make that happen and when will you do it? You want to develop a new online course as a service offering? What are the milestones and […]

  • I want you to put a big red X on each day

    When I start working with a new client, I ask how she’ll be accountable for taking action on her goals. Often I hear some variation of If I knew how to do that, I wouldn’t need coaching. Fair enough. Which means we need to have a deeper conversation that could be called Accountability 101. And it […]

  • Mini Mission—Set a daily intention

    I believe in the power of thoughts, which is why I set a daily intention. I think of an intention as “done on purpose” thinking. And so setting a daily intention is deliberately deciding what I want for the day. Not like getting items on a To Do list done. Or working toward my goals. […]

  • Someone’s New Year’s resolution is sitting on the curb

    Yesterday I saw someone’s New Year’s resolution sitting on the curb, already forgotten. It looked forlorn. Bewildered the fanfare of January 1 faded so quickly. I watched it sit there, slump there—unrealized. Wondering if it would be dusted off and tried again next year. What about you? Did you make any resolutions for the coming year? Is […]

  • Top 10 Ways Not To Achieve Your Goal

    Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals

    1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]

  • Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?

    Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?

    The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]

  • Are you keeping secrets?

    Why are you keeping your goals a secret?

    I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when […]

  • 6 questions to ask when your resources are scarce

    When you think about your goals, where is there a gap in your resources? Are you lacking the assets—the things or thoughts, actions or energy—you need? We need resources to accomplish our goals and be the person we want to be. But here’s the thing: Often we complain we don’t have the necessary resources and […]

  • Is it the right goal and is it YOUR goal?

    Are you tired of setting goals you don’t achieve? Are you worn out by missing the target for what you want most in life? Goals are great when you set yourself up for success in achieving them. Otherwise, unmet goals leave you feeling discouraged and doubting your abilities to succeed. Here’s a litmus test for […]