• Tale of two stories (Aka: What you focus on is what you get)

    A few years ago, Hans and I were between our old house and new digs. Construction delays on our new place meant moving into a hotel. What was originally supposed to be three months turned into six. That’s 173 days. But who’s counting. That’s where these two stories begin: We were 63 days into our […]

  • I don’t want to be a meteorologist on The Weather Channel

    We had 11.2 inches of snow a few days ago. So, of course, everyone was talking about the weather. The polar vortex, wind chill, feels like temperature, snowfall amounts, icy this and arctic that… In the space of a single day, I had a dozen weather-related conversations. The weather was the opening of conversation and […]

  • I’ve got good news for you: Your way is not the only way

    Have you ever thought to yourself: I’m the only one who can do it right. This is an exhausting lie because it means you’re doing everything. From creating the PowerPoint slides to putting up the holiday decorations to dropping the kids off at soccer. From balancing the checkbook to doing the laundry to running the […]

  • Mindset: What can I contribute?

    Her default setting:  How can I contribute?

    I have a friend who has a mindset wired for contribution. Whatever the day, whatever the circumstance, her default setting is: How can I contribute? It’s a marvel to witness the world she creates through this lens of contribution. When she meets someone new. How can I contribute to connecting with this person? When she […]

  • I am vulnerable when …

    In the last couple weeks, Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead has come up in conversation a dozen times. Seriously. 12 times. Although most people simply refer to: You know, that book about vulnerability. Several conversations were with coaching clients, which makes sense […]

  • Comparison is the thief of joy

    The comparison mindset comes in many forms. Everyone has it easier than I do. Everyone else is better off. Everyone has more stuff. Everyone has it better.  Comparison: It’s the mantra of separation and disconnect. Whatever the particular comparison, it’s them versus you—and you come up lacking. They have more money, better looks, more advantages… They […]

  • More, less & different

    Three simple questions about more, less & different

    Autumn is underway and it’s the perfect time to reflect and cast off what you don’t want to take into the new year. Yes, I’m already talking about the new year. Because the new year is just 77 days around the corner. I find once the holidays are underway—which are also just around the corner—many of […]