Ask these 4 questions to know if it’s a toleration
Tolerations have been called energy vampires, the gunk of life, holes in your personal success cup, and static playing in the background of your life. All those descriptions are true. But I think the best definition is simply: Tolerations are all the things you are reluctantly putting up with. Can you relate? Because you’re probably […]
Pesky tolerations are more costly than you think
Imagine I ask you to name 3 results you want to create in your life. You name them. Then suppose I ask, What might get in the way of achieving those 3 results? Even before you tell me, I know the answer. Let’s try it right now. First, you have do your part and reveal […]
To Do vs. Toleration: It matters more than you might think
I have a To Do list. I use it to get things done. Tasks go on the list. Tasks are marked off the list. I used to be at war with my To Do list because it started to fill less with tasks to do and more with tolerations. You know what I mean by […]
Isn’t it time to reclaim your energy?
I just hate tolerations. Those pesky energy drains that have a sneaky way of accumulating. One becomes two becomes many. It’s the conversation you don’t have even though you know you need to. It’s the To Do you leave undone, moving it to tomorrow’s list, over and over. It’s the boundary you don’t set and […]
Your #1 energy drain is probably in the room with you
Did you know the most common type of energy drain is what’s going on around you in your environment? Skeptical? Energy drain audit. Then do a quick scan of your environment. Because I can almost guarantee it will yield drains on your energy. It’s that pile of unfiled paperwork on your desk and the chip in your car windshield. It’s […]
What do you want freedom from?
What do you want freedom from? The stress and anxiety of an overscheduled life? Too much time spent working to make a living without having a life? The friction and energy drain of trying to keep up with the Joneses? What do you want freedom from? Focusing more on money than meaning? Living for the […]
A friction-filled life is not just the way it is
Where’s the friction in your life? Where do you feel tension or experience resistance? Where is there disharmony or a drag on your energy? Friction comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe it’s the strained relationship with your mother-in-law or last-minute requests from your boss. Maybe it shows up when you think about your retirement […]
I walk into a room and see a To Do list
The other day a friend said, I can’t walk into any room in my house without seeing a To Do list. She went on to describe what she sees: CDs in piles, dust, unfinished craft projects, carpet that needs to be cleaned, stacks of photos waiting to be put in albums, an item to be […]
Why I’m dragging my feet about making a will
I really hate tolerations. Those nagging energy drains that lurk in the background of life, sapping the spirit. So I’ve gotten really good at nipping them in the bud. I have specific strategies in place to keep tolerations from coming into my life, and when one does get through, I’m usually quick to address it. […]
Are you willing to be friction-free?
It’s amazing the amount of energy we’re willing to expend day after day to maintain what isn’t working, to avoid fixing what’s broken, and to keep doing what we know we should stop. Friction comes in many forms. It comes… Wrapped in the putting off and postponing of procrastination. In the slow death of good […]