Some women actually think self-care is selfish
This is a dangerous lie that ignores basic facts about mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well-being. This lie—self-care is selfish—leads to worn out, frazzled, harried, stressed, overwhelmed women. It’s not a pretty sight. It’s wonderful to do for others. But it crosses the line into unhealthy when it’s at the sacrifice of yourself. Think of […]
Top 10 thoughts it would be better not to think
My undergrad experience is inextricably linked to watching David Letterman. One of my favorite bits was always the Top 10 lists. They had me laughing before the list even began with topics like Top Ten Least Popular Pepperidge Farm Cookies and Top Ten Things Overheard At New York City Pay Phones. I thought I’d […]
The story of the worst boss I ever had
She was a taskmaster. Never celebrated a single achievement. Always raised the bar higher with each success. Nothing was ever good enough. She set entirely unsustainable work hours. Frowned on vacations and believed weekends were time to get extra work done. The client was always right—even if it meant staying until the wee hours to […]
Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? It’s time to HALT.
I don’t remember the first time I heard the acronym HALT, but I do remember it stopped me in my tracks. I thought, Oh, that’s what’s going on when I make decisions that don’t serve me or my best life. When I take actions I later regret. Because when I’m hungry, angry, lonely or tired, […]
Mini Mission—Make self-care an attitude
What’s your approach to self-care? Is self-care an activity or an attitude? When self-care is perceived as disparate activities—do yoga, drink water instead of soda, journal, eat kale, wear sunscreen, meditate—it’s all too easy to get caught up in the business and busyness of life and skip X, Y, Z acts of self-care. Too many […]
Are you listening to your intuition?
A recent trip to Mackinac Island has me thinking about lighthouses—those wonderfully picturesque structures that warn of danger from a location sailors could see from a safe distance and serve as a guide into harbors. Interesting—that dual purpose to both warn and guide. To announce danger and light the way to safety. Not unlike a […]
Create a better future with these 11 strategies
Each day you’re faced with hundreds of choices—many of them seemingly inconsequential—that in reality make up your future. So the question becomes: Are your choices moving you toward living your best life or are they keeping you unhappy, stuck, and living small? It’s choice—not chance—that determines your destiny. —Jean Nidetch How perfectly that captures the […]