Do these thoughts make you feel bad?
Ellen hurt my feeling when she turned down my invitation. I’m worried whether I’ll get the promotion at work. My presentation needs to be absolutely perfect. I’m so confused and really don’t know what to do. I want to start my own business, but am afraid of failing. Sue didn’t seem very pleased with my […]
10 things to do after a setback
There are all the inspiring quotes about setbacks: Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. —Winston Churchill Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. —F. Scott Fitzgerald Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. —Dale […]
Everything has to be perfect vs. Done is better than perfect
The perfect holiday. The perfect performance. The perfect house. The perfect life. Everything has to be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. You have to be perfect. The perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you […]
Oops, I just lost a bunch of work and have a choice to make
I’m in the midst of creating a course I plan to launch in October. More about that in the coming weeks. But that’s not what this post is about. No, this is about what happened last week when I lost 30+ hours worth of video recording and editing work. I won’t get into the technical […]
5 ways being a taskmaster is no fun
Hey, I have someone I’d like you to meet! She’s a demanding kill-joy who will make you feel lousy about yourself and is never any fun. Certainly doesn’t sound like your first choice for company, does it? And yet you very likely hang out with her all the time. It’s your inner taskmaster. And she’s […]
Want to feel lousy? Listen to the voice of resistance.
Steven Pressfield popularized the term resistance in The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles I nearly had whiplash the first time I read this book from nodding so enthusiastically in agreement. It’s one of those life-changing reads. Very simply put: Pressfield says we encounter the resistance any time […]
Things I would put in the crusher
If I could, I would put limiting beliefs in the crusher I would put mine in And I would put in yours too Things like I’m just no good at… A person like me could never… I should be… I’m not creative enough… I mustn’t because I might fail… I would put them in, one […]
5 ways to boost your confidence
Are you self-assured about your own abilities? Do you fully appreciate your own qualities? I recently conducted a reader survey that found many women are experiencing a crisis of confidence. It shows up in the form of self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and negative self-talk. Does that sound familiar? Do you want to play a bigger game, […]
If I don’t try, I won’t fail
If I don’t try, I won’t fail. Absolutely. I have no argument with the truth of this mindset. But typing those words sends a shudder down my spine. Our mindset becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. So if your mindset is don’t try, won’t fail, then the world must shrink to make that your reality. Small and […]
We had a disagreement and now the weekend is ruined
The all or nothing mindset is self-talk focused on extremes. If I don’t stick to my diet perfectly, I might as well give up trying to lose weight. If I don’t get 25 people to sign up for my workshop, it’s a waste of time. If I don’t perform flawlessly, I’m a total failure. We […]