Do these thoughts make you feel bad?
Ellen hurt my feeling when she turned down my invitation. I’m worried whether I’ll get the promotion at work. My presentation needs to be absolutely perfect. I’m so confused and really don’t know what to do. I want to start my own business, but am afraid of failing. Sue didn’t seem very pleased with my […]
10 things to do after a setback
There are all the inspiring quotes about setbacks: Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. —Winston Churchill Never confuse a single defeat with a final defeat. —F. Scott Fitzgerald Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success. —Dale […]
Everything has to be perfect vs. Done is better than perfect
The perfect holiday. The perfect performance. The perfect house. The perfect life. Everything has to be perfect. You can’t make mistakes. Failing is unacceptable. You have to be perfect. The perfectionist mindset creates this reality: Before you even swing your legs out of bed in the morning and put your feet on the floor, you […]
Oops, I just lost a bunch of work and have a choice to make
I’m in the midst of creating a course I plan to launch in October. More about that in the coming weeks. But that’s not what this post is about. No, this is about what happened last week when I lost 30+ hours worth of video recording and editing work. I won’t get into the technical […]
5 ways being a taskmaster is no fun
Hey, I have someone I’d like you to meet! She’s a demanding kill-joy who will make you feel lousy about yourself and is never any fun. Certainly doesn’t sound like your first choice for company, does it? And yet you very likely hang out with her all the time. It’s your inner taskmaster. And she’s […]
On my nightstand: 13 things mentally strong people don’t do
In a good book the best is between the lines. –Swedish Proverb Here’s what I’m currently reading— 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do: Take Back Your Power, Embrace Change, Face Your Fears, and Train Your Brain for Happiness and Success This book has one of those titles where you just have to look. 13 […]
On my nightstand: Confidence is the stuff that turns thought into action
In a good book the best is between the lines. –Swedish Proverb Here’s what I’m currently reading— Most women can easily recite areas in their lives where they wish they felt more confident. I hear it all the time. I wish I were confident enough to… ask for a promotion change careers set better boundaries […]
On my nightstand: From asking for help to the creative mindset “Yes, And”
In a good book the best is between the lines. –Swedish Proverb Here’s what I’m currently reading— Much like Brene Brown says in the foreword, I look at Amanda Palmer and think, I have nothing in common with you. And then I read The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People […]
Want to feel lousy? Listen to the voice of resistance.
Steven Pressfield popularized the term resistance in The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles I nearly had whiplash the first time I read this book from nodding so enthusiastically in agreement. It’s one of those life-changing reads. Very simply put: Pressfield says we encounter the resistance any time […]
Things I would put in the crusher
If I could, I would put limiting beliefs in the crusher I would put mine in And I would put in yours too Things like I’m just no good at… A person like me could never… I should be… I’m not creative enough… I mustn’t because I might fail… I would put them in, one […]