• No matter how hard you try, you can’t outwit this formula

    Thoughts lead to behavior. Behavior creates results. This is one of those formulas you can’t outwit or work around. It’s simple and true and just is. When you’re not getting the results you want in your life, all you have to do is look at your thoughts. Because your thoughts are leading to your behavior. […]

  • Who else wants to break free of this fallacy?

    In philosophy there’s this thing called the is-ought fallacy. It boils down to this: Because something is or has been it ought to be. If you’re like me, you have to let that sink in for a minute. The is-ought fallacy is at work when we assume that because things are a certain way, they […]

  • I can’t make it to that meeting (Really?)

    I can’t exercise regularly. I can’t start a business. I can’t make it to that meeting. I can’t change jobs. I’m fascinated by the distinction between can’t versus won’t. And how often we say one when we really mean the other. Can’t vs. Won’t: Can’t is about skill. Won’t is about will. So which is […]

  • Is your history weighing you down?

    Are you weighed down by your history? Do you have a narrative about your past that disempowers you? We all have a story to tell—whether to others or just ourselves—about how we got to where we are today. Here’s the thing: There are the facts of the story, such as leaving college before graduation, being […]

  • If only and but

    I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”

    I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”. What I don’t hear enough of is “and”. If only my husband didn’t travel so much for work, I could go back to school.  If only I had more money in savings, I could pursue my passion. If only I had more time, I […]

  • Are you all about the worst-case scenario?

    Do you regularly steel yourself for the worst? Does your mind take a little information and run with it into the future thinking about negative scenarios? When faced with anything new or outside your comfort zone, do you assume you’ll fall short, it won’t work out, or that something catastrophic will happen? My spouse says […]

  • Don't try to be perfect.

    Two reasons I really hate this ad

    I really dislike this ad. It bugs me every time I read: We all have to do 10 things at once. Perfectly. I have nothing against L’Oreal or Julianna Margules. But I have a lot against perpetuating the notion that we have to do 10 things at once. Says who? Isn’t it time we stopped buying […]