4 disempowering things you need to stop doing
Life puts obstacles in our path, no doubt. But just as often we get in our own way. Here are four disempowering habits to drop today. 1. Letting your past predict your future. Your past is just that — past. There doesn’t have to be a straight line from where you’ve been to where you’re […]
A friction-filled life is not just the way it is
Where’s the friction in your life? Where do you feel tension or experience resistance? Where is there disharmony or a drag on your energy? Friction comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe it’s the strained relationship with your mother-in-law or last-minute requests from your boss. Maybe it shows up when you think about your retirement […]
I think we’re scared to death of having more energy
I want you to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. Go ahead, I’ll wait. In one column, write down what gives you energy. In the other column, list everything you can think of that drains your energy. Really, I mean it. Pull out a piece of paper and spend a […]
Is this your particular form of insanity?
Our days are full of decisions. Hundreds of choices, big and small. From the mundane of what to wear, what to eat for breakfast, which route to take to work… To the potentially life-altering of whether to change careers, go to counseling or get a divorce, start exercising, make time for creativity… Every single choice has […]
Which of the hundreds of cereals do you want?
The other day a friend and I were talking about how many choices are available to us. But not in a good way. Shelf after shelf of toothpaste. Over a hundred types of hand soap. An entire aisle of cereal. Choice overload. Decision fatigue. That’s the world we live in—and bump up against every day. […]
The story of the worst boss I ever had
She was a taskmaster. Never celebrated a single achievement. Always raised the bar higher with each success. Nothing was ever good enough. She set entirely unsustainable work hours. Frowned on vacations and believed weekends were time to get extra work done. The client was always right—even if it meant staying until the wee hours to […]
Are you doomed if you don’t make the right decision?
A client and I were recently talking about how to make a no-lose decision. It reminded me how much I’ve benefited from Susan Jeffer’s approach to decision-making outlined in Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway We’ve been taught to be very careful about making decisions. Very careful as in highly anxious, second […]
No matter how hard you try, you can’t outwit this formula
Thoughts lead to behavior. Behavior creates results. This is one of those formulas you can’t outwit or work around. It’s simple and true and just is. When you’re not getting the results you want in your life, all you have to do is look at your thoughts. Because your thoughts are leading to your behavior. […]
Not everything in life can be equally important
There’s a movement underway to get back to the basics. To move away from possession-cluttered, debt-overloaded, work-burdened, and time-starved lives. To make lifestyle choices that minimize the “more is better” mindset, and maximize the reality that simplicity means more time, balance, and satisfaction. It means less not more Simplicity is clarifying what matters most and […]
“You’re trying to get people to overhaul their lives”
I was having a “let’s get to know each other” coffee with someone I’d only said hello to at a couple of networking events. We were ten minutes into our conversation when she said something that stopped me in my tracks: It sounds to me like you’re trying to get people to overhaul their lives. […]