Will the real you please stand up?
“They won’t like me if I act like myself.” That’s what a client worried aloud the other day. She was dreading an upcoming networking event and was already exhausted by the turn-herself-inside-out machinations she anticipated undertaking. To please. To win over. To not offend. I’ve heard many versions of this same sentiment: The fear that […]
Why are you keeping your goals a secret?
I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when […]
Are you the heroine of your story?
We each have a narrative to tell about our life. It’s interesting what we decide to include—and exclude—in the telling. What’s the story you tell? Do you start from the beginning or do you skip entire chapters? Do you edit out the parts where you flubbed your lines or do you unabashedly recount the missteps […]
I don’t want to be driven anymore
I didn’t realize in early May I was taking a sabbatical. I thought I was just feeling a bit less motivated. Finding it more difficult to focus. Noticing my productivity was falling off. It was a curious turn of events because I’ve always been such a taskmaster with myself—driven, pushing through, doing, doing, doing. But […]
Are you listening to your intuition?
A recent trip to Mackinac Island has me thinking about lighthouses—those wonderfully picturesque structures that warn of danger from a location sailors could see from a safe distance and serve as a guide into harbors. Interesting—that dual purpose to both warn and guide. To announce danger and light the way to safety. Not unlike a […]