• 5 ways to put a little more intention in every day

    Do you ever look back over your day and feel disappointed about how you showed up? The early morning argument with your spouse. Being impatient with your kids. Procrastinating at work. Doing more advice giving than listening on the call with your sister. None of it is what you intended. But…what did you intend? Do […]

  • Your life purpose: 43 questions you need to ask yourself 

    Are you on autopilot, going through the motions, just getting by? Maybe feeling discontent and a little aimless. Are you struggling with your direction and purpose? If so, chances are you have Compass tolerations. Compass tolerations show up when you’re: Not fully engaged in some part of your life Living out of alignment with your […]

  • Here are 12 things that get in the way of ease

    My word for the year is ease…the absence of difficulty or effort. Just thinking about ease makes me take a deep breath and relax. Even feel a little happier. My life already has a lot of ease in it. I’ve made certain choices the last few years to move toward ease. Leaving a career I […]

  • Tough love: It’s time to stop indulging in confusion

    You know how sometimes you hear something that changes everything? This happened to me the other day while listening to a podcast at the gym. Here’s what I heard: Don’t indulge in confusion. I nearly flew off the back of the treadmill. I’m pretty sure I shouted, You’ve got that right! because several people nearby […]

  • When you want the piece of cake and to veg on the couch

    In the short-term you want… The second piece of cake… To veg on the couch in front of the TV after a long day of work… To spend another afternoon shopping on credit… To put off getting started on that big project… The lure of immediate gratification. When you consider only the present moment, it’s […]

  • Is it crazy to quit your job when you’re successful?

    Remember a few years ago when I quit my job and everyone said I was crazy? Remember that? People said, But you’ve already invested so many years in your field. And, But the money! How are you going to replace a six-figure salary? And then there was this: You want to be WHAT!? A life […]

  • You’re unhappy with your job, but please don’t do this

    Not a week goes by that someone doesn’t pull me aside at a coffee shop to confess they hate their job. I’ve noticed shortly after sharing their discontent, they say some version of I really need to update my resume and start looking. No, no, no. It seems like a good impulse. You’re unhappy with […]

  • Are you doomed if you don't make the right decision?

    Are you doomed if you don’t make the right decision?

    A client and I were recently talking about how to make a no-lose decision. It reminded me how much I’ve benefited from Susan Jeffer’s approach to decision-making outlined in Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway We’ve been taught to be very careful about making decisions. Very careful as in highly anxious, second […]

  • Do you have the urge to go smaller?

    A friend said, I’m downsizing a dream. It turns out he’s letting go of a long-held dream to start his own business. Instead, he’s repackaging and repurposing that old aspiration into joining a small technology startup as an employee. While it won’t be his own business, he’s getting in on the ground floor and will have […]

  • Mini Mission—Define success for yourself

    It’s energy-draining trying to live—and live up to—someone else’s definition of success. You invariably come up lacking. Or perhaps you achieve some coveted level of success—this size paycheck, that title—only to find you feel sort of empty inside. That’s what happens when we’re lazy about defining success for ourselves. It’s not hard to see how […]