Bad behavior: When you get in your own way
Tolerations are things you’re reluctantly putting up with—and can include your own behavior. While there are 8 types of tolerations, Behavior tolerations can be particularly exasperating because it’s you you’re putting up with. For example, do you work too many hours and over promise at work? Do a lot of mindless eating and get too […]
Be your own guru: How to give yourself wise advice
Where’s the best place to go for some wise advice? The self-help section at Barnes & Noble? A call to your best girlfriend? Ask your spouse? Find out what The Expert says and do that? Nope, none of those. The very best, wisest advice you’ll ever get will come from…you. How do I know this? […]
Isn’t it time to reclaim your energy?
I just hate tolerations. Those pesky energy drains that have a sneaky way of accumulating. One becomes two becomes many. It’s the conversation you don’t have even though you know you need to. It’s the To Do you leave undone, moving it to tomorrow’s list, over and over. It’s the boundary you don’t set and […]
“Yeah, but” will only get you so far
See if this sounds familiar. You’re confiding in a friend about a problem or dilemma you’re facing. Maybe you’re… Deciding whether to leave a soul-deadening job Struggling to make movement part of your daily life Exhausted from saying “yes” all the time Putting off a much-needed crucial conversation with a colleague Afraid to get back […]
On my nightstand: Confidence is the stuff that turns thought into action
In a good book the best is between the lines. –Swedish Proverb Here’s what I’m currently reading— Most women can easily recite areas in their lives where they wish they felt more confident. I hear it all the time. I wish I were confident enough to… ask for a promotion change careers set better boundaries […]
What happens when you don’t have the experience for what you want?
The other day I was thinking about what lead me down the path of entrepreneurship. After maxing out my growth in a couple different roles for a company in Chicago, I applied for a stretch position in strategic account management. It would be a new arena for me. One that would use my current skillset, […]
Are you paying the price of inauthenticity?
The other night Hans came across a great quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson. “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” He knew the quote would resonate because as an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs I place a premium on authenticity. The quote sparked thoughts […]
Are you putting off a crucial conversation?
Do you need to step outside your comfort zone and have a big conversation or ask a big question? Are you living small as you continue to put off having a crucial conversation? “I’m afraid to talk with my boss about where I’m headed with the company. I don’t think I’m going to like what […]