5 ways to boost your confidence
Are you self-assured about your own abilities? Do you fully appreciate your own qualities? I recently conducted a reader survey that found many women are experiencing a crisis of confidence. It shows up in the form of self-doubt, limiting beliefs, and negative self-talk. Does that sound familiar? Do you want to play a bigger game, […]
What’s the very next step?
Do you know someone who is wired to ask, What’s the very next step? Someone who seems to have action and results in their DNA. I have to admit the very next step is not my natural state. I can get overly focused on the whole enchilada. On wanting to know all the steps involved […]
Who else wants to break free of this fallacy?
In philosophy there’s this thing called the is-ought fallacy. It boils down to this: Because something is or has been it ought to be. If you’re like me, you have to let that sink in for a minute. The is-ought fallacy is at work when we assume that because things are a certain way, they […]
Life is too short to be bored
Hearing someone say I’m bored or My life is boring is like nails on a chalkboard. It causes a visceral flinch. Bored? Boring? Really? In this day—at any age—is boredom even possible? Well, apparently it is if you believe it is. Our mindsets become a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you believe your life is boring, it’s the lens […]
Your comfort zone is not where the magic happens
Your comfort zone is safe, secure, comfortable. It’s familiar and easy to navigate because you’ve been there, done that. It keeps you in the land of Sameness. Tomorrow is like today is like yesterday. You stay contained, reined in, the same. And so your comfort zone is really the perfect place to be if you […]
Are you all about the worst-case scenario?
Do you regularly steel yourself for the worst? Does your mind take a little information and run with it into the future thinking about negative scenarios? When faced with anything new or outside your comfort zone, do you assume you’ll fall short, it won’t work out, or that something catastrophic will happen? My spouse says […]
Why are you keeping your goals a secret?
I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when […]
Sometimes you just have to take the first step
I was reminded recently of something I seem to relearn on occasion: Sometimes you have to jump in and get started, even when you don’t know exactly how to do something. You just have to take the first step. As my friend Denise has said, You have to have faith the path will appear. For […]
Do you want to keep having what you’re having?
I hear a lot of nos. No, that’s too hard. No, that would be overwhelming. No, I don’t have the energy for that. No, that would take too long. No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. “No” is hard to come back from. It puts the kibosh on what’s possible. Nothing changes if nothing changes. […]
Are you ready to play in a bigger arena?
I received a reminder from nature about the new possibilities that open up when we play in a bigger arena. Here’s what happened: I had a small plant that was thriving nicely in a small planter. I’d had the plant for years and it was remarkably consistent in size. Exploded in growth I recently decided […]