Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next.
Sometimes you encounter a mindset so powerful it seems like adopting it would give you superpowers. That’s how I feel about this one: Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next. This is the Swiss army knife of mindsets. Multi-purpose, and handy to have in any situation. It can be applied anytime, anywhere. I’ve pulled this […]
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Why are you trying to be a master juggler?
Client: Last week was really crazy. I just need to get better at juggling. Me: What’s the appeal of keeping all those balls in the air? It sounds exhausting. Client: No, it’s just a figure of speech. You know what I mean. I need to be better at handling stuff, multitasking, managing my time. Hmmm….that […]
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Mini Mission—Make self-care an attitude
What’s your approach to self-care? Is self-care an activity or an attitude? When self-care is perceived as disparate activities—do yoga, drink water instead of soda, journal, eat kale, wear sunscreen, meditate—it’s all too easy to get caught up in the business and busyness of life and skip X, Y, Z acts of self-care. Too many […]
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Are your words working for or against you?
Someone says, I have a problem when they could just as easily have said, I have an opportunity. Problem versus opportunity. Which is the more empowering use of language? I used to find myself habitually saying I’ll try before some task or activity: I’ll try to get to the gym today. I’ll try to find time to […]
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Her default setting: How can I contribute?
I have a friend who has a mindset wired for contribution. Whatever the day, whatever the circumstance, her default setting is: How can I contribute? It’s a marvel to witness the world she creates through this lens of contribution. When she meets someone new. How can I contribute to connecting with this person? When she […]
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What 7 questions will you ask?
Anyone who knows me knows I love questions. The more the better. I’m a big believer in asking questions. A quality question can open the door to discovery and invite breakthrough thinking. It generates insight, which can lead to action and ignite change. Perhaps you have a friend or colleague who’s adept at asking quality […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Stop running on fumes
A lot of people are running on fumes—their reserve tank is empty. Are you one of them? To have a reserve means having more than you need in areas of your life—like personal space, finances, time, energy, rest, etc. Do you have reserves? Or are you running on empty in some area? (Maybe even more than one…) […]
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I can’t make it to that meeting (Really?)
I can’t exercise regularly. I can’t start a business. I can’t make it to that meeting. I can’t change jobs. I’m fascinated by the distinction between can’t versus won’t. And how often we say one when we really mean the other. Can’t vs. Won’t: Can’t is about skill. Won’t is about will. So which is […]
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Top 10 ways NOT to achieve your goals
1. Keep your goal a secret. Whatever you do, don’t tell anyone about your goal. That way no one can rally around you with support, resources, and accountability. Keeping your goal a secret also ensures part of you is hidden away. What’s so great about showing up in the world in an authentic way? 2. […]
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Is your history weighing you down?
Are you weighed down by your history? Do you have a narrative about your past that disempowers you? We all have a story to tell—whether to others or just ourselves—about how we got to where we are today. Here’s the thing: There are the facts of the story, such as leaving college before graduation, being […]
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I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”
I hear a lot of “if only…” and “but, but, but”. What I don’t hear enough of is “and”. If only my husband didn’t travel so much for work, I could go back to school. If only I had more money in savings, I could pursue my passion. If only I had more time, I […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Accept your next compliment
What did you say the last time someone complimented you? Did you accept or deflect? Did you respond with: Thank you. I really appreciate that feedback. Thanks for the acknowledgement. Thanks for noticing. I appreciate the kind words. That means a lot. Thank you. I’m guessing it wasn’t any of those. I recently complimented a […]
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Dreams are impractical. Or are they?
It hurts my heart when someone says dreams are impractical. Hurts my head and soul too. And I do hear it. At least a couple times a month. Sometimes more. I’ve heard it from clients, workshop attendees, the woman doing my nails, the man seated next to me on the plane. This bleak mindset sometimes […]
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Possibility and opportunity are all around
Possibility and opportunity are all around if you’re on the lookout. Here’s a great story about the importance of being present to the opportunities right in front of you. Back in the ’50s Kihachiro Onitsuka was trying to make basketball shoes in Japan, believing the sport was going to become popular in that country. His […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Own your power
Are you giving away your power? Giving away your personal power diminishes you and erodes your ability to create change in your life. You might be giving away your power by: blaming others looking backward instead of forward not listening to your intuition trying to be someone you’re not people pleasing letting others decide what’s […]
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