Manifesting & Deliberate Creation: manifesting skills

If you’re like me, you want to improve your manifesting skills so you can create what you want in the future. Well, one way to do this is by better understanding how you created your current reality.

Think about it: When you know how you got what you have, it makes it easier to get what you want in the future.

Do you know how you created your current reality?

It always helps to start with a little Law of Attraction 101.

Like attracts like. Thoughts become things.

If you’ve been studying Law of Attraction for any amount of time, you know it’s not just your thoughts, but rather the thought-feeling combo.

Because you are a magnet attracting what you think and feel.

Now, some of your thoughts have little creative power. Those are the ones you think infrequently and with little emotion.

But then there are those thoughts that have a great deal of creative power. Those are the thoughts you think frequently and with strong emotion.

“What you think about activates a vibration within you.” —Abraham

So a thought you think that you don’t feel much emotion around does not have as much creative power as a thought you think that elicits strong emotion from you.

  • I hate that.
  • I really, really need to get that job.
  • She is so toxic.
  • I really don’t want X to happen.
  • He needs to be different.

“Every time you spend time looking at something unwanted, you just practice the vibration that attracts it to you.” —Abraham

I want you to conduct your very own research study.

In this study, you will be the scientist and the subject you are studying is you and your life.

Look around. Look around at your reality. And ask yourself: What was I thinking and feeling to create this?

Look around…and you will see evidence of your beliefs everywhere.

“We attract to ourselves what we hold inside. Every circumstance, every person, and every situation that we attract and experience is based on what is inside of us. Could you ask for a more magnificent system than this? Your life is a reflection of what you hold inside you, and what you hold inside you is always under your control.” —The Secret Daily Teachings

You attract what you think and feel.

It really is as simple and straightforward as that.

As you conduct your study, looking around at your life, be open to what you notice and connect the dots. Embrace the notion that you created your currently reality—even if you don’t much like it.

Because you did.

Now, that might feel discouraging or make you sad or even angry. Or you might be tempted to go down the woe-is-me-trail-of-tears, but just think about what it means for your future.

Because if you created your present-day reality—and you did—then you can—and will—create your future reality.

And that’s a very good and very powerful thing!

I accept and embrace I have created every single bit of my reality. That’s what feels true to me. That’s LoA in my life.

Every now and again, I have a client who wants to argue with this concept. She says, No, I wouldn’t have created it. I had nothing to do with this or that.

  • A relationship that’s broken
  • Getting laid off from a job
  • A financial setback

There’s a very real drawback to taking an a la carte approach to how reality is created.

A la carte as in, Yes, I created A and B, but I had nothing to do with X, Y, and Z in my life.

Because taking an a la carte approach robs you of your power by essentially saying creative control is just a crapshoot.

I think a lot of times we just don’t want to admit we’ve been vibrating at the level of exactly what has shown up in our lives. That our point of attraction is, indeed, a straight line to the essence of what has shown up.

Especially when what has shown up is not what we want—is, in fact, unwanted.

I hesitated to share this next story for fear it might offend.

Which is really interesting because I realized my fear of offending is really just another flavor of approval seeking. I had to admit to myself that while I’ve peeled many layers of the approval seeking onion, apparently there’s still more to peel.

Telling this story is hopefully on point for this topic, but also simply an opportunity for me to show up in an authentic way. And one thing I know for sure is we can’t truly love our lives if we don’t fully show up for them!

So here’s my story—the one I was hesitant to share.

A few months ago Hans and I had an argument.

We both said things that weren’t nice. Neither of us took the high road or showed any goodwill. We each got stuck in our point of view and rightness. I felt angry and hurt. I’m sure Hans would say the same.

Looking back, the situation itself was minor—the facts of what actually happened and what was actually said. But the thoughts I had and the momentum I created around those thoughts was truly amazing. Amazing in a terrible, dreadful way.

In episode #003 of Love Your Life, I talk about what I call the Unwanted 5 that lower your point of attraction. The Unwanted 5 are blame, criticism, fault finding, judgment, and complaining.

Well, I confess, I tapped into all five in a downward spiral of negative emotion. I blamed Hans. And criticized. I found fault with Hans. And judged. And boy did I complain!

And, of course, because I was feeling all that negative emotion, I was in the process of attracting what I didn’t want. I was feeling negative emotion, which meant I was mis-creating.

The argument itself was short-lived, but the next few days were subdued. There was definitely a residue left from the argument. We retreated to our respective corners and were civil in an exaggerated way. There was sort of this who-will-blink-first and truly connect and bridge this divide with love.

“The most valuable skill or talent that you could ever develop is that of directing your thoughts toward what you want.” —Abraham

But that is not what I did. While I wasn’t actually arguing with Hans anymore, inside there was still an argument going on.

Here’s what I was vibrating during the argument itself and the days after:

  • You, Hans, are responsible for my feelings.
  • You have hurt my feelings.
  • And you are responsible for making me feel better.

Oh my! It was as if I suddenly forgot everything I know about Law of Attraction.

I was most definitely mis-creating.

I was vibrating with powerlessness. I had made myself powerless by abdicating responsibility for my own feelings. By turning responsibility for how I felt over to Hans, I had no power.

I was blocked from happiness in the most fundamental way because I was making my happiness dependent on someone else, on some set of circumstances.

Now, none of that is actually what I was afraid to tell you. I had an argument with my husband. I forgot everything I knew about LoA. It happens.

Here’s where I started to get hesitant about sharing. But want to if I’m really going to explore how we create our current reality.

So you need to know this: I rarely get sick. It had been years since I’d had so much as a cold.

Well, very shortly after the argument followed by the impasse between the two of us, I got sick with a terrible cough and congestion. I ended up going to the doctor twice because the cough and cold and feeling lousy just lingered and lingered.

OK, gross alert: I means this literally and figuratively. It was like something gunky was stuck inside me.

So here’s my point. Here are the dots I’m connecting.

I attracted that cough and cold. I created that.

That’s what I was afraid to tell you.

It’s easy to talk about Law of Attraction and the manifestations of all the good stuff. The raise or new job. The happy relationship or new house. The freedom and empowerment. All the alignment and feeling good.

Most of us want to believe we have creative power over manifesting what we want. But we don’t want to have been responsible for creating what we do not want in our lives.

  • Living paycheck to paycheck or ill health
  • The failed relationship or unfulfilling career
  • The struggle and lack and failure

We don’t want to have created those unwanted things in our own lives. And we also don’t want to be blamed by others for having created them.

I had a cough and cold, not a serious illness, but at the time I wouldn’t have appreciated someone saying, Jennifer, you created your cold. You attracted that cough.

Today, a few months later and having deepened my own understanding of Law of Attraction and how it shows up in my life, I would readily agree.

What shows up in my reality is in response to my vibration, to my point of attraction.

And that includes both the wanted and the unwanted.

“What you are living is the evidence of what you are thinking and feeling—every single time.” —Abraham

Which means what I was living—the cough and cold and congestion—was the evidence of my thinking and feeling.

When I had the squabble with Hans, my thoughts were very negative and my feelings were very strong. It makes sense the strength of that thought-feeling combo would show up in a big way and in a hurry in my physical reality.

“Illness is the body’s way of telling us that there is a false idea in our consciousness. Something that we are believing, saying, doing, or thinking is not for our highest good. I always picture the body tugging at us saying, ‘Please pay attention.’” —Louise Hay

Well, I know for sure: That argument and my entire part in it was not for my highest good. And my body most certainly did say, Please, Jennifer, pay attention.

“Your body is an absolute mirror of your mind. As you worry, your body shows it. As you love, your body shows it. As you are overwhelmed, your body shows it. As you are angry, your body shows it. Every cell of your body is being allowed or resisted by the way you feel.” —Abraham

What I’ve come to realize—or perhaps re-realize—is this is all a practice.

Leveraging Law of Attraction in your life is a practice. And some days you will get on the high flying disc, as Abraham says, and some days you won’t.

Something will happen and you will not choose the better-feeling thought, you will not make feeling good your priority, you will get momentum around a downward spiral, you will look outside yourself for the fix, you will go upstream, upstream upstream, and you will hang out in your “righteous” anger or blame or disappointment on the low end of the emotional scale.

And in all of that, you will be creating your reality.

I often think it is our closest relationships that are our greatest spiritual teachers.

I won’t go so far as to say I’m glad Hans and I had an argument or I’m so glad I reacted the way I did and got sick. But I am more than happy to look at what happened as an opportunity to deepen my LoA practice. To really look at what happened with love and appreciation that I now can connect the dots.

Which means perhaps next time around I’ll be able to connect the dots in the moment or at least a bit sooner, and make the connection between my thoughts and feelings and what I’m creating.

I want you to become better at manifesting what you want in the future by better understanding how you manifested what’s in your life today.

“A belief is only a thought you continue to think; and when your beliefs match your desires, then your desires must become your reality.” —Abraham

So that’s what you want—for your beliefs to match your desires.

Here are two questions to help:

  • First: What beliefs are creating your current reality?
  • Second: What would your beliefs need to be to create the reality you want?

Remember: A belief if just a thought you keep thinking.

“My manifestations are the indicators of my beliefs… It is always true that whatever you are living always matches your chronic Vibrational patterns, or beliefs. And it does not matter if you have an excellent excuse for your negative thoughts and negative emotions—they still equal your point of attraction. What is manifesting on every subject in your life is an indicator of the beliefs you hold and your chronic patterns of thought.” —Getting into the Vortex Cards

Thoughts become things. What you choose to focus your attention on—the thoughts you choose to think, the thoughts you practice over and over so that they become your beliefs—that is what creates your reality.

Look at something in your current reality and then work backwards by asking yourself:

  • What did I think to create that?
  • What did I believe to create that?

I encourage you to ask these questions routinely—because your answers very likely will produce an Aha! moment for you. The light bulb will go on.

  • Oh, that’s how I created this current situation in my life.
  • Oh, that’s the belief that resulted in this circumstance showing up for me or this person or this event.

Be gentle with yourself.

Now, when you ask these questions, do so with compassion.

This exercise is not an excuse to beat yourself up for the reality you’ve created. Of course not! Feeling bad about yourself for what you’ve created is not going to help you create something better.

And don’t spend any time or energy wishing you had done things differently. That’s not useful. What is useful is to connect the dots. To see the results of your thoughts and beliefs.

I want you to deconstruct how you created your reality so you can truly understand the immensity of your creative power.

Connect the dots so you can see with clarity that when you think X, Y shows up in your life.

Because if your current reality has something in it you don’t want or is missing something you do want, then a change in your thoughts and beliefs will create a change in your reality.

When you connect those dots by looking at how you’ve created your current reality, it creates an opening and new insight about how to create the future you really want.

Look around. And you will see evidence of your beliefs everywhere.

“The evidence does not support your belief. The evidence was created by your belief.” —Abraham