Top 10 thoughts it would be better not to think
My undergrad experience is inextricably linked to watching David Letterman. One of my favorite bits was always the Top 10 lists. They had me laughing before the list even began with topics like Top Ten Least Popular Pepperidge Farm Cookies and Top Ten Things Overheard At New York City Pay Phones. I thought I’d […]
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5 ways being a taskmaster is no fun
Hey, I have someone I’d like you to meet! She’s a demanding kill-joy who will make you feel lousy about yourself and is never any fun. Certainly doesn’t sound like your first choice for company, does it? And yet you very likely hang out with her all the time. It’s your inner taskmaster. And she’s […]
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Mini mission—Ask for what you need
It’s amazing how often we expect others to read our minds about what we need. And then get upset when they don’t. Listen versus problem solve You want your friend to listen when you talk about the problem you’re having at the office, not problem solve. But you don’t tell her this upfront. Instead, you […]
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I think we’re scared to death of having more energy
I want you to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. Go ahead, I’ll wait. In one column, write down what gives you energy. In the other column, list everything you can think of that drains your energy. Really, I mean it. Pull out a piece of paper and spend a […]
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I’m just not energized by my work anymore
I recently worked with two women, each who came to coaching with her own unique version of I’m not energized by my work anymore. Too much on her plate The first client had too much on her plate. And it didn’t get there by accident. Poor boundaries and people pleasing had her saying “yes” too […]
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It’s time to stop being bothered by undone To Dos
Recently I posted I walk into a room and see a To Do list. The basic premise: Your environment isn’t neutral. It’s either giving you energy or draining your energy. Which means when you’re in your home and all you see are undone items on a To Do list, your energy is being depleted. Here’s an […]
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I walk into a room and see a To Do list
The other day a friend said, I can’t walk into any room in my house without seeing a To Do list. She went on to describe what she sees: CDs in piles, dust, unfinished craft projects, carpet that needs to be cleaned, stacks of photos waiting to be put in albums, an item to be […]
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Stop using lack of clarity as an excuse
Do you wish you had more clarity about something in your life? Maybe you’re thinking about changing careers, but unsure what kind of job would be a better fit. Maybe you want to simplify your overbusy life, but have no idea how to untangle yourself from shoulds and have tos. Maybe you’re looking to turn […]
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Is this your particular form of insanity?
Our days are full of decisions. Hundreds of choices, big and small. From the mundane of what to wear, what to eat for breakfast, which route to take to work… To the potentially life-altering of whether to change careers, go to counseling or get a divorce, start exercising, make time for creativity… Every single choice has […]
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Do you need to go on a content consumption diet?
We live in a world where ideas have never been more accessible. Thought-provoking, life-enhancing, and useful content is just clicks away. I like to think of myself as a lifelong learner, but admit I’m also an idea junkie. I follow over 200 blogs through Feedly. I listen to dozens of podcasts each month. You can […]
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Want to feel lousy? Listen to the voice of resistance.
Steven Pressfield popularized the term resistance in The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles I nearly had whiplash the first time I read this book from nodding so enthusiastically in agreement. It’s one of those life-changing reads. Very simply put: Pressfield says we encounter the resistance any time […]
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Things I would put in the crusher
If I could, I would put limiting beliefs in the crusher I would put mine in And I would put in yours too Things like I’m just no good at… A person like me could never… I should be… I’m not creative enough… I mustn’t because I might fail… I would put them in, one […]
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It’s not the job market that will get in your way. It’s you.
I was talking to a great guy recently about his job search. He has an impressive resume of top jobs with organizations familiar to all of us. He’s smart, articulate, a master problem solver, and someone who doesn’t just say the words “team” and “collaboration”, but truly lives these concepts. His skillset is impressive, and […]
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Are you rehearsing the future and rehashing the past?
I admit, I’m not always great about staying in the present. I know that’s what makes sense. The here and now is all we really have. But oh how enticing it is to rehash the past and rehearse the future. Especially that latter one for me. The future is a wonderful place. I love visioning, […]
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Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? It’s time to HALT.
I don’t remember the first time I heard the acronym HALT, but I do remember it stopped me in my tracks. I thought, Oh, that’s what’s going on when I make decisions that don’t serve me or my best life. When I take actions I later regret. Because when I’m hungry, angry, lonely or tired, […]
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