Mini mission—Go one day without complaining
Do you complain a lot? You just might be surprised. For instance, have you complained today about the weather? The traffic? Or your spouse doing this or not doing that? Have you complained today about your job, commute, co-workers or boss? Have you complained about your kids? Customer service? Or a recent purchase that didn’t meet […]
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What makes you think you know what’s best for others?
I don’t know what’s best for you. Or anyone else for that matter. And you don’t know what’s best for me. Or anyone else for that matter. Since those statements hold true for you, me, and everyone, this stands out: There’s a whole lot of advice giving going on. Usually unsolicited. Often disempowering. Here’s what […]
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Isn’t it time to reclaim your energy?
I just hate tolerations. Those pesky energy drains that have a sneaky way of accumulating. One becomes two becomes many. It’s the conversation you don’t have even though you know you need to. It’s the To Do you leave undone, moving it to tomorrow’s list, over and over. It’s the boundary you don’t set and […]
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4 ways to uncomplicate your life
Have you ever said, It’s complicated as a reason for not making the changes you say you want in your life? Your work situation is complicated. Or your marriage. Your financial situation is complicated. Or your relationship with your parents or kids. One of the reasons we keep our lives so complicated is so we […]
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Repeat after me: It’s OK to ask for help
Today is National Ask for Help Day. No, it’s not on your calendar and there’s no greeting card for it since I just made it up. But I think it’s going to catch on. Because I’ve decided we all need to get better at asking for help. Myself included. Every week I encounter someone who balks […]
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Your #1 energy drain is probably in the room with you
Did you know the most common type of energy drain is what’s going on around you in your environment? Skeptical? Energy drain audit. Then do a quick scan of your environment. Because I can almost guarantee it will yield drains on your energy. It’s that pile of unfiled paperwork on your desk and the chip in your car windshield. It’s […]
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What do you do after you say, I don’t know how?
What do you do after you say, I don’t know how? I’d like to find more meaningful work, but I don’t know how. I’d like to start a blog, but I don’t know how. I’d love to try travel hacking, but don’t know how to do it. I know it’s time to negotiate a higher […]
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Is your group of 5 dragging you down?
You’ve probably heard the expression: You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with. While I’m pretty sure that’s not a scientific fact, it is food for thought. Another way to look at it is: Garbage in, garbage out. Of course, not that any person is garbage, but let’s face it: […]
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I’ve had enough of performing, perfecting, pleasing and proving
Do you know what’s exhausting? Hustling for worthiness. Performing, when you’re not an actor. Perfecting, when your standard means nothing is ever quite good enough. Pleasing, when you’re an approval junkie. Proving, when that little voice whispers, You’re not enough. I’ll bet you know what I’m talking about. Because I’ve yet to meet a woman […]
Continued... Mini mission—Stop being so unrealistic
This one is about unrealistic expectations. But not the ones others have for you. No, these are the worst kind: The ones you place on yourself. The Planner in me is overly optimistic about how much can get done in an hour or a day. The Doer in me is really pissed off a lot […]
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Do you need to watch out for the big bad wolf?
Once upon a time…the sun is shining, the birds are singing, everything’s rosy, and all is right with the world. Success is in the air. You’re at the top of your game. Things are going smoothly. Just like a fairy tale. But is there something lurking in the shadows that could get in the way […]
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Is it crazy to quit your job when you’re successful?
Remember a few years ago when I quit my job and everyone said I was crazy? Remember that? People said, But you’ve already invested so many years in your field. And, But the money! How are you going to replace a six-figure salary? And then there was this: You want to be WHAT!? A life […]
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The truth is hard to escape
Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts. – Soren Kierkegaard Ouch. This is one of those expressions that hits home, whether we want it to or not. Because what if we look around at our lives and don’t like what we see? The truth is hard to escape. The problem is often […]
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It all falls apart when you won’t decide
It seems everyone is trying to simplify some aspect of their lives. Their calendar, commitments, finances… Their commute, To Do list, expectations… Their morning routine, relationships, living space… The desire to simplify is strong. On the other side of simplified is more time and freedom. Less stress and anxiety. More of what matters and less […]
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A friction-filled life is not just the way it is
Where’s the friction in your life? Where do you feel tension or experience resistance? Where is there disharmony or a drag on your energy? Friction comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe it’s the strained relationship with your mother-in-law or last-minute requests from your boss. Maybe it shows up when you think about your retirement […]
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