Not now doesn’t mean not ever
I’m a collector of mindsets. I notice them in myself. I listen for them in other people. I love reading about them. I write about them. I try them on to see what the world looks like through their lens. And I’m always on the lookout for mindsets I haven’t encountered before. Several years ago […]
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My manifesto revisited: 33 ways to live
What do you believe in and stand for? What principles guide your daily thoughts and actions? How do you intend to live? I sat down one day last year and asked myself those very questions. An hour or so later, I had my manifesto, a declaration expressing my intentions and views. You can see the […]
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Read this when no one says “Thank you”
Words mean a lot. We’ve all felt the surge of pride and accomplishment when our efforts are acknowledged. When someone lets us know we make a difference. Sometimes we get external validation or recognition. Someone says, Good job in appreciation of our efforts. When that happens, it’s not hard to feel you make a difference, right? […]
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The present would be perfect IF…
Lately I’ve been trying on this mindset: The present is perfect. I have to admit, I’m still practicing this one, still wrapping my mind around it. Because there’s a part of me that wants to say, Yeah, but… The present would be perfect IF… It’s a whole other thing to say the present is perfect—regardless of […]
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Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next.
Sometimes you encounter a mindset so powerful it seems like adopting it would give you superpowers. That’s how I feel about this one: Magnify what’s best. Focus on what’s next. This is the Swiss army knife of mindsets. Multi-purpose, and handy to have in any situation. It can be applied anytime, anywhere. I’ve pulled this […]
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Mini Mission—Make self-care an attitude
What’s your approach to self-care? Is self-care an activity or an attitude? When self-care is perceived as disparate activities—do yoga, drink water instead of soda, journal, eat kale, wear sunscreen, meditate—it’s all too easy to get caught up in the business and busyness of life and skip X, Y, Z acts of self-care. Too many […]
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Her default setting: How can I contribute?
I have a friend who has a mindset wired for contribution. Whatever the day, whatever the circumstance, her default setting is: How can I contribute? It’s a marvel to witness the world she creates through this lens of contribution. When she meets someone new. How can I contribute to connecting with this person? When she […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Accept your next compliment
What did you say the last time someone complimented you? Did you accept or deflect? Did you respond with: Thank you. I really appreciate that feedback. Thanks for the acknowledgement. Thanks for noticing. I appreciate the kind words. That means a lot. Thank you. I’m guessing it wasn’t any of those. I recently complimented a […]
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Here’s how I start my day
I don’t have a set schedule. One day I might have back-to-back coaching calls starting at 8 a.m. and the next day be call-free until early afternoon. While I love the variety and flexibility, it also leads me to crave more structure to start the day. After some experimenting, here’s the routine I’ve landed on: […]
Continued... Mini Mission—Be grateful and enjoy
We are often geared toward what’s next—a new goal, a new want. Toward getting better, having more. Upgrade, improve. Goal set, get. All fine and good to aspire, to anticipate and plan what’s around the corner. But often what gets lost on the way to the next thing is taking time to enjoy and be […]
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