How to Feel Better: expectation

Are you expecting what you want? Or are you expecting what you don’t want?

Why on earth would you expect what you don’t want? That doesn’t make any sense, does it? And yet…that’s what so many of us do. We expect the very things we don’t want.

I want to talk about expectation, why it’s so important to manifestation, and help you shift to using expectation to your advantage.

“Expectation is a focus with a vibration that permits the receiving of what you’re focused upon—and, you expect things, both wanted and unwanted.” —Abraham

There is so much packed in this quote that is useful for manifesting with greater ease. Let’s unpack all this juicy wisdom.

It starts right away with expectation is a focus. Expectation is a focus because you’ve narrowed your attention to a particular subject or desire.

  • You have an expectation about the job or the date.
  • You have an expectation about the money or your health.

Focus is super important when it comes to manifesting.

“By staying focused on a subject of your choosing your point of attraction on that topic will become much more powerful than if your mind moves from subject to subject.” —Abraham

Don’t underestimate the importance of focusing. When you focus your attention on a subject and then you add in a vibration, Law of Attraction goes to work in responding.

We are not to that vibration part just yet, so let me emphasize this about focus: Focusing calls energy. When you focus on a particular subject, you are summoning energy.

When you focus, you become a more selective sifter—a more selective noticer—and therefore a more selective attractor. Now, of course, you want to be selectively sifting, selectively noticing, selectively attracting what you want rather than what you don’t want.

That almost goes without saying, and yet many of us are using the power of focus to pay attention to the very things we don’t want.

Abraham goes on to say expectation is a focus with a vibration. OK, so now we are at that vibration part. The feeling part.

  • You have an expectation about the job, and you feel in response to that expectation.
  • You have an expectation about the date, and you feel in response to that expectation.

Maybe you feel worried about the job and hopeful about the date. In other words, you could be feeling good or feeling bad in relation to your expectation. Either is possible.

Positive expectation is listed on the emotional scale at #4, so quite high up. And while negative expectation is not listed explicitly as an emotion on the scale, we can imagine it being quite low.

When you are expecting something wanted, you feel good. When you experience positive expectation and anticipation at the thought of what you want, it feels very good, indeed.

On the other hand, when you feel negative expectation about something you want or about some area of your life, you don’t feel good. Negative expectation—whether about a job offer, a relationship, your finances—negative expectation about something does not feel good.

To recap, expectation has a vibration. When you expect the money to arrive in your account, you feel positive. When you expect your spouse to come home late for dinner, you feel negative.

So we’ve got a focus and we’ve got a vibration.

Then Abraham lets us know that expectation is a focus with a vibration that permits the receiving of what you’re focused on.

Oh wow. Now we’re getting to the reason that understanding expectation is so important. And why expectation is fundamental to manifestation.

Let’s say you want to achieve this goal or acquire that shiny penny. Well, it is your expectation on that subject along with a certain vibration that is going to allow you to receive what you want.

Expectation is very much about allowing—or disallowing. About receiving what you want—or not.

  • Positive expectation is allowing what you want.
  • Negative expectation is resistance to what you want.

When you feel positive expectation about your desires, you are allowing what you want to manifest. But when you feel negative expectation about your desires or feel negative expectation about some aspect of your life, you are resisting—you are disallowing—what you want.

Your expectation is either allowing or disallowing. Another way to put it is simply: You get what you expect.

And now we come to the critical last part: You expect things, both wanted and unwanted.

You expect things that you actually want, and you expect things that you most definitely do not want.

“Expectation indicates the juncture between where you are and where you want to be…but the word expectation does imply more what you are wanting than what you are not wanting. It is a more positive word than it is a negative word. But of course, you could expect negatively—and whatever you expect, you will get!” —Abraham

Here’s the thing: Too many of us are expecting what we do not want. In other words, having an expectation of something unwanted. Or a slight variation is an expectation of not getting something you do want.

  • You could feel positive expectation about getting the new job.
  • You could feel negative expectation about not getting the new job.

You want something, you launch a rocket of desire, and then almost immediately start doubting your ability to be, do, have whatever it is you are wanting.

Your expectation about what you want is worry it won’t happen, impatience it’s taking so long, doubt you are worthy. Worry, impatience, and doubt are the vibration you have hitched to your focus, which, of course, is a decidedly negative expectation.

So you receive what you have allowed. You get what you expect, which is not what you want.

“Expectation means that there is a desire and a belief in the same place. —Abraham

When your desire and your belief are in the same place, when they align, you feel good. When you want X,Y, or Z and you believe you will receive X, Y, or Z, there is no vibrational gap between your desire and your belief. And so you are filled with positive expectation.

You experience the high vibration of excitement and anticipation and certainty. You experience joy in the unfolding, delight in the receiving.

“The Universe has to give you want you expect and always does, but you have to train yourself into positive expectation.” —Abraham

That is your action step: Train yourself into positive expectation.

The how of this is really quite simple.

  • When you think thoughts about what you want in a way that makes you feel good, that is positive expectation. Do more of that!
  • When you think thoughts about what you want in a way that makes you feel bad, that is negative expectation.

Your focus along with a vibration will allow either of those to become your reality—wanted or unwanted. It really is up to you.

“Conjure expectation apart from reality. Practice until it is dominant.” —Abraham

Again, keep this simple. If you are focusing in a way that feels good, you’re on the right path for manifesting what you want. And when you are focusing in a way that feels bad, it’s your Emotional Guidance System letting you know you are mis-creating.

No big deal. Just reorient your focus to one that feels good. You absolutely can train yourself into positive expectation!

“It won’t be long before you will have maintained a steady vibrational pattern of positive expectation and the yield from that crop is unspeakable.” —Abraham