Are you wallowing in the problem?
I imagine most of us want to say, No of course not. I wouldn’t do that. I don’t wallow in the problem. And yet, many of us do just that.
Here’s why wallowing in the problem is a problem.
When you wallow in the problem you are vibrating at the frequency of the problem. However, the solution you want, the solution you seek, is at an altogether different frequency.
In other words, wallowing in the problem means you don’t have access to the solution. And that’s decidedly not what you want.
Wallowing in the problem can take many different forms. One of the most common is simply talking about the problem.
Does that sound familiar? Is that what you do?
- When you have a problem, do you talk about that problem with your partner—discussing it from all angles?
- Do you talk over that problem at lunch with your best friend—telling the story of that is unwanted?
- Do you call up your mom and talk about the problem with her—rehashing all the details of what you don’t want and don’t like?
That’s exactly what many of us do because we think talking about the problem is how we get to the solution. We think talking about the problem is necessary and useful. But that’s really not the case.
Once you have identified that there is a so-called problem, it’s time to turn toward the solution.
It’s time to talk about what you want. It’s time to focus on what you would like to create instead of the problem that’s in front of you.
Consider the difference between talking with your best friend about the problem versus talking with your best friend about the solution. In other words, talking about what is unwanted versus talking about what is wanted. The difference is significant—both in terms of what will actually be said and in terms of your vibration, of how you will feel.
Sometimes we even have conversations with others about potential problems.
In other words, we talk about the future, using our powerful imagination to imagine a problem that isn’t even present in the here and now.
Well, what do you suppose happens on a vibrational level when you talk about a potential problem? It puts you on the problem frequency.
“There are so many people, they’re well-meaning, but so misguided, who belief that they’ll help you by pointing out potential problems. And they don’t realize that pointing out the potential problems just activates the problem within you, and prevents you from going to the solutions that you would naturally find, if it were not for their well-meaning prodding.” —Abraham
It’s this simple: Many of us have trained ourselves to focus on problems.
This was certainly true of the pre-LoA version of me. I used to say I was a master problem solver and thought that was a really good thing.
These days, through the lens of Law of Attraction, I see taking on the identity of master problem solver meant I was always on the lookout for problems. And because I was always looking for problems, I found a lot of problems.
Being overly focused on what-is can also be a sign of wallowing in the problem. If what-is is not what you want, then staying there with your thoughts of I don’t like this—I don’t want this this—This isn’t how I want things to be is wallowing in the problem
“You cannot notice what-is and complain about it, and be a vibrational match to the solution. When you were living the problem, you were asking for the solution, and Source said yes immediately. So, there’s never a reason for you to be wallowing around in a problem for more than about a second. You can get so good at this that before you’re even aware that the problem has gotten started, you’ve already got the solution under way.” —Abraham
The moment you identify a problem in your life, the solution has been vibrationally created. Talking about the problem, looking at the problem from every angle, analyzing the problem, journaling about the problem—none of that is necessary. All of that—or really any of it—adds up to wallowing in the problem.
It’s not necessary. And it’s not useful.
“The whole time the problem is taking shape, the whole time the solution is taking shape. It’s happening at the same time. You just have to decide, how big does the problem need to get before you’re ready for the solution?” —Abraham
Think about that question for a moment: How big does the problem need to get before you’re ready for the solution?
Most of us would readily say we don’t want the problem to get big at all, right? We’re ready for the solution right now! But while you may want a solution, if you are wallowing in the problem, then you are not ready for the solution.
You don’t attract what you want; you attract what you vibrate. You may want the solution, but if you are vibrating at the frequency of the problem, then the problem is what you will get more of.
Wallowing in the problem only causes the problem to become bigger, more entrenched. Wallowing in the problem actually prevents the solution from manifesting.
One thing I’ve started to do is simply notice when I label something a problem.
Now, I might label something a problem by saying it aloud to Hans or someone in my life—and actually use the word “problem”—such as, I have a problem with my credit card statement—or I might just be labeling something a problem in my head.
Either way, I’ve started to create awareness around labeling anything a problem. I know doing so is a signal for me to pay attention to what I’m doing with my thoughts. If I label something a problem, that’s OK—if—and it’s a big if—my immediate next step is to turn toward the solution.
So it’s not labeling something a problem, per se, that is the issue. But it becomes an issue when I label something a problem and then wallow in the problem rather than notice the problem and recognize the contrast of the problem has clarified my preference and launched a rocket of desire for what is wanted, and then turn toward the solution.
This is really about using the contrast of the problem effectively.
Whatever the so-called problem is in your life, it has clarified what you want versus what you don’t want. And now, by Law of Attraction, the best thing you can do is to turn toward what is wanted.
You do so with your thoughts—and then, of course, your feelings follow. When you turn toward the solution, toward what is wanted with your thoughts, then your vibration follows with hopefulness or positive expectation or optimism.
Let’s look briefly at wallowing in the problem in relation to the three steps of manifesting.
- When you have a problem, you ask for the solution. Boom—step one of manifesting, Ask, is done because you have asked.
- Step two, Believe, is that what you’ve asked for has been vibrationally created. In other words, the solution you are seeking has been vibrationally created. Boom—step two is done.
- Step three of manifesting, Receive, is about being in receiving mode for what you’ve asked for. Which means feeling and living the vibration of the solution.
When you wallow in the problem, you are staying stuck in step one and continuing to ask for a solution. There’s no reason to continue to ask repeatedly for something that has already been vibrationally created and is just waiting for you to align with it. When you wallow in the problem, you are never in receiving mode for the solution you seek.
Many of us have trained ourselves into believing that we are getting some kind of relief by talking about our problems.
So we complain and vent. We tell stories about our problems. We write in journals about our problems. We lay awake in bed at night ruminating about our problems.
None of this is necessary. None of this is useful.
And doing this wallowing, complaining, ruminating about problems is only super gluing the problem to you. And if not that specific problem then more things of a similar frequency—in other words more problems.
You may not have realized that you’ve been wallowing in the problem.
Perhaps you don’t have much practice in noticing a problem and then shifting directly and immediately toward the solution. Instead, you have lots of experience identifying a problem and then continually activating the problem with the thoughts you think and the conversations you have.
I want you to let go of the problem.
Don’t talk about the problem. Don’t complain about the problem. Don’t journal about the problem.
I want you to let go of the problem and turn toward the solution.
“Do you know that when you finally let the problem go, the Vortex will take you in and show you the solution? That’s how it works.” —Abraham
I want you to get off the problem frequency. I want you to wean yourself off wallowing in problems.
You don’t have to do this perfectly. It’s not that you can’t ever wallow in a problem again… But just know wallowing in a problem does not lead to the solution. Does not lead to what you really want.
“Your work has nothing to do with the problem, it has to do with lining up with Source.” —Abraham
Lining up with Source is lining up with the solution.
I invite you to shift your focus from problems to solutions, shift your focus from what is unwanted to what is wanted, shift your focus from what you don’t like to what you do.
You can do this in a number of ways. One of the most simple and straightforward ways is to simply start noticing what you are labeling “a problem. When you find yourself labeling some situation or circumstance or condition a problem, you have a golden opportunity to shift to the solution.
How do you do that? You do that through positive emotion.
“The only way to solve a problem is to look toward the solution. And, when you are looking in the direction of the solution, you always feel an improvement in your emotions.” —Abraham
You feel your thoughts. The thoughts you think about a circumstance or condition or situation cause you to feel either negative emotion or positive emotion.
If the thoughts you are thinking are causing you to feel negative emotion, then you are focused on the problem.
I know if you told me, Hey, Jennifer, I think you might be wallowing in a problem, I might bristle for a second.
I don’t think anyone particularly likes to feel the realization they are wallowing in a problem. But this realization is actually offering such a huge opportunity to shift your thoughts in the direction of the solution, which will cause you to feel positive emotion.
When I say shift your thoughts, this is about reaching for the relief of a better-feeling thought.
When you think thoughts about the problem and feel the negative emotion that creates in you, and then you reach for the relief of thoughts that feel better to you, then you are headed in the direction of the solution.
See how that works?
The problem doesn’t feel good. The solution does.
You can tap into the solution right now and start aligning with it.
Remember what you want has already been vibrationally created because you asked. The solution is there, vibrationally. You can start to align with the solution right now by thinking thoughts that allow you to feel relief, by thinking thoughts that allow you to feel good.
“If you are focused on problems, the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them. What you focus on expands.” —Abraham