• Are you postponing how you want to feel until you get what you want?

    So here’s the thing: There’s always a period of time—days, weeks, months or even years—before you arrive at your desired destination. Before the goal is achieved or the shiny penny acquired. In other words, there’s a journey and process to the evolution of your desire. Sometimes—often even— it’s a gradual process. So the only question […]

  • Do you know what you want?

    When I ask someone, “Do you know what you want?”, often she’ll answer with a question of her own: “What do you mean?” Do you mean what are my goals this year? What do I want to achieve? Or do you mean… what do I want to do with my life? Are you asking me […]

  • Embrace contrast as your friend, not your enemy

    Every instance of life is presenting you with contrast. When you’re commuting to work… When you’re in a meeting with your boss… When you’re picking the kids up from school… When you’re talking to your spouse about finances When you’re exhausted at the end of the day… At any given moment, contrast—which is the variety […]

  • Love Your Life #012: Are you enjoying the evolution of your desire?

    Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about the problem with postponing how you want to feel until you get what you want. You’re going to find out whether you have it backwards when it comes to pursuing goals and going after shiny pennies. To access this episode, […]

  • Love Your Life #011: Why contrast is useful and what it’s telling you right now

    Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction. Today we’re going to talk about contrast—what it is, why it’s useful, and how to avoid getting stuck in it. To access this episode, join LYL Premium. “You never know more clearly what it is that you do want than when you are living what you […]

  • Mind your own business and have more energy

    If your spouse, children, parents, boss, coworkers, neighbors, and friends would just do what you want, you’d be a whole lot happier. Right? Imagine you could wave a magic wand and get everyone in line with your wants, needs, and preferences. It would immediately and automatically eliminate a significant amount of friction, frustration, and energy […]

  • Why I canceled my magazine subscriptions

    Magazines are so enticing. You see them on the newsstand with their glossy images of possibility and airbrushed perfection. You find that little card inside saying you can have a whole year’s worth for only $19.95. Just mail it back on impulse. They’ll bill you later. And if you’re like me, you’ll keep paying and […]

  • If you don't know, who does?

    If you don’t know, who does?

    I’ve noticed many women say, I don’t know when asked about what they think or feel or want. What do you think will help you take better care of yourself? I don’t know. What kind of work do you think you’d be happier doing? I don’t know. What do you want for your next chapter?  I […]