What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: contrast

Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction.

Today we’re going to talk about contrast—what it is, why it’s useful, and how to avoid getting stuck in it.

You never know more clearly what it is that you do want than when you are living what you do not want.” —Abraham

Are you using contrast effectively to clarify your preferences? You’ll soon find out!

This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…

  • Why contrast is your friend—not your enemy—and what to do when you notice something you don’t like
  • A common mis-use of contrast and the telltale signs you’re stuck in the contrast
  • The fastest way to an improved work environment—and how most people do exactly the opposite
  • What happens when you vibrate on the don’t want/don’t like side of the equation
  • An easy exercise to get really good at noticing contrast and shifting to clarity


“You never know more clearly what it is that you do want than when you are living what you do not want.” —Abraham

“It is only from exposure to contrast that any preferences or desires can be born. Contrast produces desire.” —Abraham

“Not having enough money causes you to ask for more money. An unappreciative employer makes you ask for someone who appreciates your talent and willingness. A job that asks very little from you causes you to desire something that inspires more clarity and expansion through you. A job that requires a long commute in traffic gives birth to a desire for work that is closer to where you live … and so on. We would like to convey to anyone looking for a change in their work environment: It is already queued up for you in a sort of Vibrational Escrow. Your work is to align with what your past and current experiences have helped you identify that you want.” —Money and the Law of Attraction

“Your own valuable, personal new desire is always born from contrast.” —Abraham

“You do not worry about contrast, for you understand its purpose. You know that it is through your interaction with contrast and variety that your own desires will be formulated.” —Abraham

“No matter how justified you are in your negative emotion, you are still messing up your future.” —Money and the Law of Attraction

“In order for life to expand, there MUST be contrast. That’s what you came for. Plus, how do you know what you want without knowing what you don’t want? As you’re exploring contrast, know that you’re NOT doing something wrong by being in contrast. Instead look at it from the vantage point that: “It’s not wrong to have a problem, it’s the path to the solution.” —Abraham

“Embrace contrast as your friend, not your enemy. It’s not going away.” —Abraham

“The whole reason that contrast exists is that it gives you desires. Because in having a desire, you have a reason to move in the direction of something. And it is the moving in the direction of something that is the living of life. It doesn’t matter how fast you get there or how long it takes you. It only matters that you’re moving in the direction of.” —Abraham

“It may sound strange, but the fastest way to an improved work environment is to look for things in your current environment that make you feel good. Most people do exactly the opposite by pointing out the flaws in where they stand in an effort to justify an improved environment. But since the Law of Attraction always gives you more of whatever you are giving your attention to, if your attention is upon unwanted things, then more unwanted things are on the way as well. When you leave one situation because of the unwanted things that are present, you find the essence of the same unwanted things in your next environment as well.” —Money and the Law of Attraction

“Your role is to utilize Energy. That is why you exist. You are an Energy-flowing Being—a focuser, a perceiver. You are a creator, and there is nothing worse in all of the Universe than to come forth into the environment of great contrast, where desire is easily born, and not allow Energy to flow to your desire—that is a true squandering of life.” —Manifest Your Desires

“Everything—from your subtle or even unconscious desires to clear, precise, vivid ones—results from the contrasting experiences of your day-to-day life. Desires are the natural by-product of your exposure to this environment of fantastic variety and contrast.” —Ask and It Is Given

“Without contrast, you could not focus Energy—and focusing of Energy is nothing more than coming to conclusions, or becoming decisive. And, since everything is about Energy and, since you are molders—or focusers —of Energy, nothing will ever be more exhilarating or satisfying to you than to sift, or sort, through contrast, find a clear decision from the contrast, focus upon that which you have decided and align with the decision—and then feel the Energy (that creates worlds!) flowing through you for the Creation of that which you are holding as your focus.” —Abraham

“Teach yourself how to see contrast and say… I prefer this. I prefer this. I prefer this. I prefer this. I prefer this. I prefer this.” —Abraham

“Contrast sharpens your ability to focus. Contrast helps you to choose what you want. Contrast is your friend, not your enemy.” —Abraham

“We want you to understand the perfection of contrast. Contrast is what causes you to clarify your desire, and without it you wouldn’t clarify your desire. And as you clarify your desire, and then the Energy calls you toward that clarified desire, that’s what the true feeling of empowerment is, that’s what the true feeling of passion is.” —Abraham


The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

Love Your Life #003: Is your point of attraction the problem?

Money, and the Law of Attraction: Learning to Attract Wealth, Health, and Happiness

Manifest Your Desires: 365 Ways to Make Your Dreams a Reality

Law of Attraction Reading List

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