Do you ask for these 3 kinds of help?
I find myself asking for three kinds of help. And I’ve learned it’s useful if I’m clear ahead of time about what type of help I’m really after—and to make it clear to the person on the other end of my “ask”. Here are the three types of help I’m usually looking for. How do […]
8 ways to stop breaking promises to yourself
One of my responsibilities as a coach is to provide my clients with external accountability. You want to get 10 new clients this quarter? What will you do to make that happen and when will you do it? You want to develop a new online course as a service offering? What are the milestones and […]
How to stop planning and start doing
Planning comes easy for many. Vision setting. 90-day business plans. Desire maps. All the scheming and dreaming. You plan your year and your month and your day. But sometimes… you get stuck in the planning. You plan to build, but don’t build. You plan to launch, but don’t launch. You keep planning, but never actually […]
Tough love: It’s time to stop indulging in confusion
You know how sometimes you hear something that changes everything? This happened to me the other day while listening to a podcast at the gym. Here’s what I heard: Don’t indulge in confusion. I nearly flew off the back of the treadmill. I’m pretty sure I shouted, You’ve got that right! because several people nearby […]
What do you do after you say, I don’t know how?
What do you do after you say, I don’t know how? I’d like to find more meaningful work, but I don’t know how. I’d like to start a blog, but I don’t know how. I’d love to try travel hacking, but don’t know how to do it. I know it’s time to negotiate a higher […]
How to get unstuck with one simple question
I have a question for getting unstuck that works every single time. Without exception. I’ve used it to start and sell a company. I’ve used it to figure out my own style of networking and grow my community. I’ve used it to navigate my father’s illness and establish a new norm in the world without […]
How to outlast the honeymoon phase of your big goal
Big goals often have a honeymoon phase—a period where you’re excited, everything seems possible, and you’re 100% engaged. But then the newness starts to wear off. You don’t feel quite as enthusiastic. Life starts to intrude. You get busy at work. Or your child gets sick. Your calendar fills with activities. Relatives visit. You take […]
Enough with the self-imposed obstacles
I was working with a client who has wanted to write a novel for the past decade. She’s had numerous starts and stops along the way—many times when she managed to sit down and produce a page or two, but then lost steam. The novel had resurfaced again in our coaching, and we explored whether […]
What 7 questions will you ask?
Anyone who knows me knows I love questions. The more the better. I’m a big believer in asking questions. A quality question can open the door to discovery and invite breakthrough thinking. It generates insight, which can lead to action and ignite change. Perhaps you have a friend or colleague who’s adept at asking quality […]
Do you want to keep having what you’re having?
I hear a lot of nos. No, that’s too hard. No, that would be overwhelming. No, I don’t have the energy for that. No, that would take too long. No, I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. “No” is hard to come back from. It puts the kibosh on what’s possible. Nothing changes if nothing changes. […]