Tolerations: Are you feeling frustrated in these 8 ways?
Did you know there are 8 different types of tolerations? Oh wait—are you saying, “What the heck is a toleration?” Well, a toleration is just a semi-fancy way of referring to things you’re reluctantly putting up with. You could also call them energy vampires, the gunk of life, or holes in your personal success cup. Whatever […]
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Sometimes I don’t like the answer to this question
Every month I do a monthly check-in of what I call the 4Rs—the Right questions to Reconnect, Recalibrate, and Recommit. The session takes about an hour. I reflect on the past month and answer a series of 20 thought-provoking questions that help me reconnect to what I want for the year, recalibrate my goals, and […]
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Ask these 4 questions to know if it’s a toleration
Tolerations have been called energy vampires, the gunk of life, holes in your personal success cup, and static playing in the background of your life. All those descriptions are true. But I think the best definition is simply: Tolerations are all the things you are reluctantly putting up with. Can you relate? Because you’re probably […]
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Are SMART goals really all that smart?
SMART is an acronym of adjectives related to goal setting. Each letter represents something your goal should have. S is for specific M is for measurable A is for actionable R is for realistic T is for time-bound It’s amazing how easy it is to set a goal that isn’t SMART. Like Lose 10 pounds […]
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Mini Mission—Stop sacrificing pleasure to productivity
I like my coffee piping hot. But last week I noticed this: I re-heated my single cup of morning coffee six times because I kept getting distracted and it cooled off. Six times. And it was only 8 ounces of coffee. I didn’t really even notice the first couple times I stuck my mug in […]
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Will this be your deathbed regret?
One of the most common deathbed regrets is: I wish I had let myself be happier. Doesn’t that thought just make you ache? I know it does me. It causes a near-physical pain. Because notice it says “I wish I had let myself be happier.” Had let myself be present instead of busy Had let […]
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Here are 12 things that get in the way of ease
My word for the year is ease…the absence of difficulty or effort. Just thinking about ease makes me take a deep breath and relax. Even feel a little happier. My life already has a lot of ease in it. I’ve made certain choices the last few years to move toward ease. Leaving a career I […]
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Do the footwork and stay out of the results
Do the footwork and stay out of the results. Do the footwork and stay out of the results. That’s what you’d see on any given day if thought bubbles appeared over my head. For instance, I’m thinking it right now because I want to write a blog post that resonates and is useful to you. […]
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Pesky tolerations are more costly than you think
Imagine I ask you to name 3 results you want to create in your life. You name them. Then suppose I ask, What might get in the way of achieving those 3 results? Even before you tell me, I know the answer. Let’s try it right now. First, you have do your part and reveal […]
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I don’t want to be a meteorologist on The Weather Channel
We had 11.2 inches of snow a few days ago. So, of course, everyone was talking about the weather. The polar vortex, wind chill, feels like temperature, snowfall amounts, icy this and arctic that… In the space of a single day, I had a dozen weather-related conversations. The weather was the opening of conversation and […]
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How to avoid the Year of the Big Ham
It’s the early days of December. This can be a hectic time of year as the holidays come with a lot of pressure and expectation. Our first year together, I fixed a 20-pound ham for just Hans and me. It even had pineapples stuck on top with toothpicks—just like my Mom used to do it. […]
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You pay a price when you delay making a decision
You miss out on early bird conference pricing because you delay deciding whether or not to attend. You feel increasingly frustrated with your current job, but delay deciding if you’re going to change careers. You struggle to market your services because you put off deciding who your ideal client is. What do these three scenarios […]
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What one result do you most want to achieve in the next 90 days?
I’m not trying to nag. At the same time, I want to hold you accountable for your goals. You said you want ____ [go ahead, fill in the blank]. Maybe you want to launch a blog or leave a soul-sapping job. Maybe your goal is to declutter your house or re-enter the dating world. Or […]
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8 truths for a more blissful you
Blissful. Does that describe you? Happy, joyful, delighted, on cloud nine, over the moon, on top of the world. Because if it doesn’t, I’m hoping these 8 Truths will shine a light on why.
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Is your mind working against you?
Recently I was talking with a woman who is struggling in her business. Let’s call her Susan. Susan shared she doesn’t have enough clients. When I asked for specifics, she said, I have 8 clients. I need 15 to make a living. Here’s our conversation from there: Me: What thought do you have about the […]
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