What-is & Wanted vs. Unwanted: self-help

Welcome to Love Your Life + Law of Attraction.

Today we’re going to talk about why I’m done with self-help—and finished with focusing on problems.

This episode is perfect for anyone who wants to learn…

  • How hundreds of self-help books caused me to change careers and how I then shifted from self-improvement to Law of Attraction
  • The book I stopped reading halfway through because it was too depressing and why I prefer unicorns and rainbows to negativity
  • How our brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones
  • What we can learn from Appreciative Inquiry and Positive Psychology about looking for what’s right
  • 4 distinctions to help you shift your energy and a radical idea to ask your intuition about


“We are wanting to awaken within you, your memory of how wonderful you are! How good you are, and how worthy of whatever you are wanting you are.” —Abraham

“We want you to know that the question that you hold has been answered—you’ve just go to let yourself flow toward the answer. We want you to know that the dilemma that you feel faced with has been solved—you just have to let yourself flow toward the solution. You just have to not struggle in the interim. You just have to trust that the power of the Stream and the worthiness of your Being is enough—because it is.” —The Astonishing Power of Emotions

“Our shadow is made up of all the parts of ourselves that we hide, deny, suppress, and don’t see in ourselves – both the positive and the negative. Our shadow is all the aspects that we reject out of shame, fear or disapproval. It is made up of any part of ourselves that we believe is unacceptable, will be met with disapproval by others, or that annoys, horrifies or disgusts us about other people or about ourselves. As the great Swiss psychologist C.G. Jung said, “Our shadow is the person we would rather not be.” —The Ford Institute

”If you are focused on problems, the Law of Attraction will bring problems to you faster than you can fix them. What you focus on expands.” —Abraham

Your brain is continually looking for bad news. As soon as it finds some, it fixates on it with tunnel vision, fast-tracks it into memory storage, and then reactivates it at the least hint of anything even vaguely similar. But good news gets a kind of neural shrug: “uh, whatever.” In effect, the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.” —Dr. Rick Hanson

“Beating the drum of the problem condition does not bring you to the solution ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever.” —Abraham

“Every thought that you think that is directed toward what you want for your future is of great benefit to you. Every thought that you are thinking about your future that you do not want is a disadvantage to you.” —The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

“You are not here to prove your worthiness. You are worthy. You are here for the experience of joyful expansion.” —Abraham

“Well-Being is the basis of this Universe. Well-Being is the basis of All-That-Is. It flows to you and through you. You have only to allow it. Like the air you breathe, you have only to open, relax, and draw it into your Being.” —Ask and It Is Given


It didn’t occur to me to be embarrassed

Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

The Optimist Creed

The Astonishing Power of Emotions: Let Your Feelings Be Your Guide

The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life

There’s no doubt. The right questions changed my life.

Are you dimming your light in these 33 ways?

The Ford Institute — Shadow Work

The Dark Side of the Light Chasers

Dr. Rick Hanson’s Stephen Colbert: We Don’t Need To ‘Keep Fear Alive’

The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham

Top 6 Law of Attraction Books

My Full Law of Attraction Reading List

Note: Resources above may be affiliate links, meaning I get paid a commission (at no extra cost to you) if you use that link to make a purchase.

Thanks for listening!

Every ten episodes of the podcast, I publish a book! Check out my Law of Attraction series.

Do you have a question about Law of Attraction?  Send an email to: [email protected]

Would you like to help out the show?  Leave a review on iTunes. Here’s how to leave a rating & review on a Mac or PC and here’s how on an iPhone.

Sign up for inspiration & insight in your inbox

You can expect emails from me a couple times a month to motivate, inspire, and help you live with more intention.

  • This field is for validation purposes and should be left unchanged.