Do you have a scarcity mindset about time?
There’s never enough time. I’m so busy, but always behind. There just aren’t enough hours in the day. I have too many things to do and not enough time. With this scarcity mindset, you cut yourself off from this possibility and clarifying principle: There is enough time for what really matters. Quite simply, your mindset […]
Continued...
React vs. respond: Do you know the difference?
Have you ever thought about the difference between a reaction and a response? On the surface, they may seem similar, but the distinction makes a difference. A reaction A reaction is the knee jerk. Someone is rude to you and you react in a rude manner in return. We’ve all been there. Reacted, swiftly and without […]
Continued...
Comparison is the thief of joy
The comparison mindset comes in many forms. Everyone has it easier than I do. Everyone else is better off. Everyone has more stuff. Everyone has it better. Comparison: It’s the mantra of separation and disconnect. Whatever the particular comparison, it’s them versus you—and you come up lacking. They have more money, better looks, more advantages… They […]
Continued...
If you believe you’re unlucky, you are.
The unlucky mindset comes in many forms. I’m just not really lucky. I can never catch a break. Bad luck follows me around. I’m never in the right place at the right time. I’m unlucky in love. She has all the luck. I just wasn’t born under a lucky star. Our mindsets become a self-fulfilling […]
Continued...
Mini Mission—Lighten your load by removing one thing
Sometimes we think major effort and grand sweeping gestures are necessary to create change in our lives. It’s true an overhaul is sometimes required. But other times change begins with the smallest step, the tiniest of actions. Take lightening your load, for instance. You could lighten your load by: Decluttering your house from top to […]
Continued...
There’s no doubt: The right questions changed my life
My life is a work in progress. Like yours. Like everyone’s. And like me, you’ve probably had pivotal moments. Moments where something or someone crossed your path and forever changed the journey you would be on. Last month Debbie Ford, one of my teachers and sources of inspiration, passed away. Debbie was one of my […]
Continued...
Are you sabotaging yourself with limiting beliefs?
Lately it seems there’s an epidemic of limiting beliefs. Has everyone caught a debilitating case of self-sabotage? I can’t… I’m not… It won’t… Limiting beliefs aren’t the only thing preventing you from achieving your goals and creating the life you want, but they certainly play a role. Here’s what I believe: Limiting beliefs hold you […]
Continued...
Do you feel like you’re enough?
I had an epiphany of sort a few days ago: I am enough. I’ve read about feeling enough. Heard about it. Wanted it. But I’ve never felt it. Not truly. Not through and through. I’m not sure how it happened exactly. There’s been a lot jettisoned over the last few years. Peeling off expectations. Shedding […]
Continued...
Are you treating your life like a dress rehearsal?
It takes a lot of courage to look your life square in the eye and face the truth. Particularly if you’ve been in denial about the state of your relationships, career, health, finances, self-care, physical environment, spiritual life, emotional well-being, etc. Or if you’ve deferred truly living by falling into the insidious trap of “life […]
Continued...
What if you stopped thinking in terms of negatives?
What if you reconnected with possibility. Rather than focusing on what you can’t do, what if you focused on what you can do. What if you focused on what is possible. What if you moved beyond your lengthy list of all that’s wrong and not working in your life—and get very clear about what is […]
Continued...
Do you want to rebuild or transition?
If your marriage is crumbling, do you rebuild with counseling or do you transition to singlehood? If your business is struggling, do you rebuild with a new line of services or transition to working for someone else? No doubt either path—rebuild or transition—requires effort. But I’ve noticed a great deal more energy—and often fruitless, draining, […]
Continued...
Do you know what your Eeyore moment means?
The other day a client was goal setting when she was suddenly gripped by pessimism: I’m just going to set these goals, but nothing is really going to change… This gloomy outlook was in stark contrast to the mood of the previous weeks where epiphanies were flying about the goals she wanted to set. So […]
Continued...
Slip-ups are just a fact of life
Why is it we expect perfection—from ourselves, from others, from life? What’s that about? As a recovering perfectionist who decided a few years ago to actively fight the controlling dis-ease of perfectionism, one of the most effective strategies I’ve adopted is planning ahead for slip-ups. By “planning ahead” I mean: Expecting them—Slip-ups are going to […]
Continued...
I want you to stop waiting for permission
There are two groups of people. Those who realize they can give themselves permission and those who are waiting, waiting, waiting for permission from someone else. Permission to… Let’s take the first group: Those who realize they can give themselves permission to… Take a long-sought-after-but-yet-unrealized goal off the radar and revisit it in a year Stop […]
Continued...
A good scientist doesn’t stop at the first failed experiment
I want to experiment more. I want to try things, experience how they feel, figure out what works, see what doesn’t. That’s a basic principle of experimentation: Paying attention to the cues and clues of discovery. Too often we quickly say,Well, that didn’t work, and simply give up. Be a good scientist In that sense, […]
Continued...
