Are you rehearsing the future and rehashing the past?
I admit, I’m not always great about staying in the present. I know that’s what makes sense. The here and now is all we really have. But oh how enticing it is to rehash the past and rehearse the future. Especially that latter one for me. The future is a wonderful place. I love visioning, […]
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Not now doesn’t mean not ever
I’m a collector of mindsets. I notice them in myself. I listen for them in other people. I love reading about them. I write about them. I try them on to see what the world looks like through their lens. And I’m always on the lookout for mindsets I haven’t encountered before. Several years ago […]
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Are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired? It’s time to HALT.
I don’t remember the first time I heard the acronym HALT, but I do remember it stopped me in my tracks. I thought, Oh, that’s what’s going on when I make decisions that don’t serve me or my best life. When I take actions I later regret. Because when I’m hungry, angry, lonely or tired, […]
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The myth of perfect conditions
I was talking with an attendee at one of my writing workshops. She was there to write the novel she’d been thinking about for years. But when it came to actually writing—not just talking about writing—she wanted to wait until she could afford to purchase a laptop to start her novel. This purchase was months […]
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Limiting beliefs are sure to keep you stuck
I watch otherwise smart and capable people stay stuck day after day because of limiting beliefs. The person who says, I’m just not creative foregoes opportunities to create. The person who says, I’ve never been able to stick with things stops setting goals altogether. The person who says, I’m not good at networking and wouldn’t really know how […]
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My manifesto revisited: 33 ways to live
What do you believe in and stand for? What principles guide your daily thoughts and actions? How do you intend to live? I sat down one day last year and asked myself those very questions. An hour or so later, I had my manifesto, a declaration expressing my intentions and views. You can see the […]
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I don’t want to be in debt
There are some questions that almost guarantee an interesting conversation. What’s your ideal life? is one of them. Which is why I love asking this question. I’ve noticed, though, in describing their ideal life, most respond with a laundry list of what they don’t want. I don’t want to be in debt. I don’t want to […]
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Don’t look now, but there are dishes in the sink
there will always be more to clean up to put away to organize to take care of there will always be more to add to your To Do list there’s a dish in the sink a load of dirty laundry a bill waiting to be paid a cluttered closet there will always be more productivity […]
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Will you take the energy challenge?
Often I hear someone say they wish they had more time. Maybe you’re someone who says this. But time isn’t always what people are really looking for. More than time, I think most of us want more energy to do the things that matter most. Wishing for extra time Recently a client said, I wish there […]
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Someone’s New Year’s resolution is sitting on the curb
Yesterday I saw someone’s New Year’s resolution sitting on the curb, already forgotten. It looked forlorn. Bewildered the fanfare of January 1 faded so quickly. I watched it sit there, slump there—unrealized. Wondering if it would be dusted off and tried again next year. What about you? Did you make any resolutions for the coming year? Is […]
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It’s been a year. 10 thoughts about downsizing.
It’s been a year since Hans and I moved from the hotel where we lived for six months into our current apartment. All in all, we went from a house of 1400 square feet to a hotel room of 300 to our current abode of 733. What a journey it’s been. At the one-year mark, […]
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It was working…and then you stopped
You’ve experienced this, right? You were doing something that was working, getting the results you wanted, and so you stopped. What?! Maybe you were… Following a budget Keeping a food journal Turning devices off an hour before bed Meeting your quota of cold calls Writing for 30 minutes a day Laying out your workout clothes the […]
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How to get unstuck with one simple question
I have a question for getting unstuck that works every single time. Without exception. I’ve used it to start and sell a company. I’ve used it to figure out my own style of networking and grow my community. I’ve used it to navigate my father’s illness and establish a new norm in the world without […]
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Are you doomed if you don’t make the right decision?
A client and I were recently talking about how to make a no-lose decision. It reminded me how much I’ve benefited from Susan Jeffer’s approach to decision-making outlined in Feel the Fear . . . and Do It Anyway We’ve been taught to be very careful about making decisions. Very careful as in highly anxious, second […]
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Why I’m dragging my feet about making a will
I really hate tolerations. Those nagging energy drains that lurk in the background of life, sapping the spirit. So I’ve gotten really good at nipping them in the bud. I have specific strategies in place to keep tolerations from coming into my life, and when one does get through, I’m usually quick to address it. […]
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