Mini mission—Take the next step
There’s something you want. Some goal you want to achieve. Or milestone you want to reach. Maybe it’s launch a business. Or lose 20 pounds. Maybe it’s write that book. Or run a marathon. Maybe it’s take that trip. Or change careers. Maybe it’s declutter and simplify. Or move across country. Whatever your goal, it […]
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Learning to say Yes and No with ease
A client recently made a distinction about the type of speaking engagements she accepts. She’s not interested in creating content and traveling to deliver a presentation to grow the knowledge of an audience. Instead, it’s only worth her time if she’s building the skills of audience members. Which means at the end of one of […]
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What mindset are you operating from right now?
It’s easy to get so busy—so caught up in doing—that you go on autopilot and develop a mindset that becomes more about merely getting through the day. When you do things without thinking, it’s easy to develop ways of thinking that don’t serve you. To get off autopilot you need to pause long enough to […]
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You’re unhappy with your job, but please don’t do this
Not a week goes by that someone doesn’t pull me aside at a coffee shop to confess they hate their job. I’ve noticed shortly after sharing their discontent, they say some version of I really need to update my resume and start looking. No, no, no. It seems like a good impulse. You’re unhappy with […]
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What if you don’t have to have all the answers?
Recently one of my clients shared she feels the need to have all the answers in work situations, especially with clients. This pressure to always have the right answer at the ready is causing a lot of stress—not to mention the massive preparation it requires for any client interaction. And even with all that prep time, she […]
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What if your only goal were to love well?
what if your only goal were to love well to love family and friends and fully show up in all your relationships to love your co-workers and neighbors and the guy who cuts you off in traffic (oh, it’s getting harder now, isn’t it) to love your job and how you contribute to love the […]
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It didn’t occur to me to be embarrassed
The other day I was browsing at the bookstore. Two women walked by and when they got close to where I was standing, one nearly dragged the other away saying, Oh, I don’t like to be seen in that aisle. It’s just too embarrassing. I was standing in the Self-Improvement aisle. I stood there for a […]
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A friction-filled life is not just the way it is
Where’s the friction in your life? Where do you feel tension or experience resistance? Where is there disharmony or a drag on your energy? Friction comes in all shapes and sizes. Maybe it’s the strained relationship with your mother-in-law or last-minute requests from your boss. Maybe it shows up when you think about your retirement […]
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Top 10 thoughts it would be better not to think
My undergrad experience is inextricably linked to watching David Letterman. One of my favorite bits was always the Top 10 lists. They had me laughing before the list even began with topics like Top Ten Least Popular Pepperidge Farm Cookies and Top Ten Things Overheard At New York City Pay Phones. I thought I’d […]
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5 ways being a taskmaster is no fun
Hey, I have someone I’d like you to meet! She’s a demanding kill-joy who will make you feel lousy about yourself and is never any fun. Certainly doesn’t sound like your first choice for company, does it? And yet you very likely hang out with her all the time. It’s your inner taskmaster. And she’s […]
Continued... Mini mission—Ask for what you need
It’s amazing how often we expect others to read our minds about what we need. And then get upset when they don’t. Listen versus problem solve You want your friend to listen when you talk about the problem you’re having at the office, not problem solve. But you don’t tell her this upfront. Instead, you […]
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I think we’re scared to death of having more energy
I want you to draw a line down the middle of a piece of paper. Go ahead, I’ll wait. In one column, write down what gives you energy. In the other column, list everything you can think of that drains your energy. Really, I mean it. Pull out a piece of paper and spend a […]
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I’m just not energized by my work anymore
I recently worked with two women, each who came to coaching with her own unique version of I’m not energized by my work anymore. Too much on her plate The first client had too much on her plate. And it didn’t get there by accident. Poor boundaries and people pleasing had her saying “yes” too […]
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It’s time to stop being bothered by undone To Dos
Recently I posted I walk into a room and see a To Do list. The basic premise: Your environment isn’t neutral. It’s either giving you energy or draining your energy. Which means when you’re in your home and all you see are undone items on a To Do list, your energy is being depleted. Here’s an […]
Continued... Mini mission—Quit something
Today you’re going to quit something. That’s right, quit. Not start, but stop. Cease. Discontinue. Give up. Abandon. And boy is it going to feel good! We’re so used to starting things. Adding on. Beginning. But sometimes we need to create some breathing room. Our plate is too full. We’ve outgrown something. Said “yes” too […]
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